I've also run into creators who are very uhm... very twitter? I guess that's the best description. They turn everything they can find into a dramafest, sometimes in a way that hurts a group of people they claim to want to protect
I use to write before i did comics, and I once had someone tell me my story was homophobic and racist....I'm a lesbian of color and the story was loosely based on events that happened to me...
So I know what you mean bout people making drama in an attempt to 'protect' a group of people. The truth is the best way to protect a group of people is not to be silent about the horrible things that happen to them.
Other than that i'm pretty forgiving in behavior, and think it is more constructive to try and explain a situation or inappropriate comment to someone rather than attack them, or hold it against them like you said. Sometimes it's just 'ignorance' the person didn't mean any harm but they don't know any better. Or sometimes they are venting because they feel lost and don't know where to turn for help, which I think is sometimes the case for the creators that complain about popularity. Though they shouldn't be attacking any other creators because then they dig themselves into a whole. It's the creators that have already been through the climb that can give you advise and help on how to get to the top.