Can i be so for real

[runeslime]

Oh yeah, week days are the secret golden key for D&D lol. I've always had luck on Mondays and Thursdays on being able to get a solid group together that consistently can play.
Most people are super cool with brand new players joining and wouldn't invite you if it wasn't! We had a new player join our six year long game recently and I've been in other groups where it's happened.
People are also usually happy to help teach you the game as you play as well <3

It's worth a shot if you get the chance. Its really helped fill that void for me and I love getting to share silly art of the characters with other people in the groups. I know it can be intimidating at first though!

[Orichan]

Well if they are any good at role-playing they will appreciate a new character to engage with! Though philosophies differ from group to group on seriousness tone and gameplay to story ratio! I wish you luck in joining, but also don't give up if this group doesn't work out, I'd say the best tips I've learned for having fun in DnD is 1)make sure your character is excited to be there, whether they are a selfish rouge excited for a good score, a high minded hero, or they want to save their mom, interpret the objective of the quest as part of this. 2)Try to give a window into their inner world- if the character is open and talkative this is easiest, but if you want to play a shy/mean/edgy character narrate their expressions and actions with detail so its never just "they don't respond because responding wouldn't be in character " but "they look like they might respond but visibly blanche as soon as someone mentions kobolds, it seems like they don't want to talk about that thing"

Sorry if this advice is unwarranted! I just really like DnD XD I hope you have fun when you play!

[Orichan]

Agreed! I think I went through a phase where I was like no more crazy edgelord shenanigans I MUST BE LITERARY but then I got bored and it was pointed out to me that my choices came from a place of wanting to adhere to an arbitrary standard based in shame and I was like FUCK THIS I will make the stuff that I find amusing because this is all just for fun anyway!

[Lensing]

I have a real life group of illustrators and artists. We meet regularly and talk about art, oil paint, books, comic drawing,
struggles as an artist and we do life drawing with models.

One of the best things that I did this year was drawing a crappy traditional comic with my brother like we used
to do when we were kids. I´m turning 50 soon, my brother is 2,5 years older than me. We used to draw those
really trashy comics in the 80s when we were kids. Then we laughed about it and drew the next one. They
were mostly very chaotic, funny, violent or just bizzare.

I don´t like the communication on facebook, instagram etc. there is always a troll or somebody laughing about
what you wrote. Or you read those horrible discussions of people who love AI or something like that.
Instagram is filled with extremely superficial stuff.

I like the communication with the same 10-20 people on the tapas forum

[remiquise]

It's worth a shot if you get the chance. Its really helped fill that void for me and I love getting to share silly art of the characters with other people in the groups. I know it can be intimidating at first though!

I have my reasons to worry about this group and how they might be wary of me, and I also have my reasons for thinking this idea had not been run by his other friends before mentioning it to me hah; (That reason being I was bugging him about how he'll be able to join my writing group now that he'll be free so he might have just been matching my energy.) its something I'll just let him bring up on his own again if he was serious or not. I'll definately give the group a shot if he was serious.

[remiquise]

Sorry if this advice is unwarranted! I just really like DnD XD I hope you have fun when you play!

Hah, I kind of already knew that stuff because it pops up a lot on my feeds (probably because the algerithum knows I know story telling tips) but thank you! I'm less worried about my character and rather if I can actually will myself to RP in front of folks I don't know, let alone a group. I definately got issues with becoming too anxious or overwelmed and going mute.

Agreed! I think I went through a phase where I was like no more crazy edgelord shenanigans I MUST BE LITERARY but then I got bored and it was pointed out to me that my choices came from a place of wanting to adhere to an arbitrary standard based in shame and I was like FUCK THIS I will make the stuff that I find amusing because this is all just for fun anyway!

Oh mood, on some other site I did a comic that, to this was, was my most popular. hated the thing. I wrote it because that's what others wanted, not me, so I learned: never again. I'll write what I want, what I enjoy, and if others like it too so be it. That's a bonus. If it ain't paying your bills. Guess it really is a lesson lots learn the hard way hah;;

[moontokkym]

The bots play a role but also: we all had way more time on our hands to just draw as kids and there were NO EXPECTATIONS that what we did had to be good.

As an adult there's a kind of latent ageism (which is just factually incorrect to hold true) that you "should be able to do some things by now" in art, and if you want to be seen as "good" it's got to be good in the subtle professional ways that only invested people see. You can't just draw your oc 17 times and then chat to people for hours on DeviantArt because you're 27, you have a job, you might have kids of your own, and even if you do have time... It's kind of weird because the other people who have time are teenagers whom you don't have much life in common with, meanwhile they're all bonding over schoolwork and teacher drama and the cool new anime they all had the time to watch... That was how you made online friends and built communities and I see the kids do it, it's still happening all over internet with their sonic ocs and petty friendship dramas, and it's usually kind of cute.

We're just not at that speed anymore. Quality takes time, effort takes energy, and irl life and responsibilities take up most of those things now.

[Leyelle]

Yeah, it can feel really hard to share your art these days. The internet is so full of content that we're mostly all screaming into a void

[jwabeasley]

It seems like every time I'm invited to a D&D group something happens and it always falls through. It's happened 3 times now. Though my coworker said his group was changing their D&D meeting day and implied I might be able to join now that it won't conflict with my writing group (who knew Thursdays at 6pm was a popular time). So who knows maybe this time-- maybe not. Not entirely sure how serious he was since I'd basically have to be babysat; I have no clue how these games function. Also not sure how willing his friends would be to have someone new join since they've been a group for years.And I definately don't know enough to DM lmao

Understandable, it takes some persistence to find a group that you can click with and that doesn't fall through. I've had the same thing happen, that's why my group includes some longtime RP friends - and once you find a good group, don't let them go!

Every group I've been in is very welcoming to new players of any skill level. The fresh perspective keeps things interesting. I think you would enjoy it if you give it a chance, though.

If it ain't paying your bills.

Paying bills with comics is very difficult, even for full time talented professionals! That's why it sits in a 'dedicated hobby' or 'sanity saving side-gig' slot rather than my job.

Or you read those horrible discussions of people who love AI or something like that.

Those jerks are all scammers - they talk and act like scammers. Spending any effort on them is just a waste. I look forward to when the venture capital dries up and they all have to pay $10 for each janky drawing.

[annuskabriar]

felt this. i remember being back on deviantart back in middle school making all kinds of friends

[Orichan]

It was nice, though this forum has been a good social outlet so far

[Crusoe]

Wow, this thread is such a breath of fresh air! I absolutely agree with so much of what is said here. I really miss shitty Wattpad rp's and posting crappy art on deviant art or even writing a shitton of blogs for Amino. I've been waiting for a fun platform that prioritizes that kind of fun so I can jump on board again but so far not having much luck!

Right now, it's the trick to build the community you want to find. I've still got some discord friends from my amino days and posting here but the internet seems much more of an empty space now. I guess it's also a part of getting older and getting more responsibilities but I do miss it.

[Crusoe]

If you're looking for someone to rp with, definetly let me know! I used to rp with all kinds of people with all kinds of stories so I'd be up for a new one.

[skullforceagents]

I would recommend reading How To Win Friends And Influence People by Dale Carnegie if you’re interested in improving your relationships with others. Did me wonders!

[remiquise]

We can discuss that if you want; contact me on Instagram, Twitter, discord, whatever;; my user name is the same everywhere.

[Crusoe]

Alright! I'll send you a friendrequest on discord

[Orichan]

oridesu has invited you to a group chat on Discord!

Fuckit, i made a discord group! Join if u feel like it!