How to go about dating in the future

[pinkpetals155]

I also stated why I’d wait to get married to have a sexual relationship but wouldn’t mind if I wasn’t mainly because wanna make sure it’s not just for a fling or if we do break up it feels more vulnerable and I’m not religious but it probably would be more impactful if I did save myself for marriage since I hope I have the opportunity to get married in the future

[feuersichel]

My tip is, to not preassure yourself or your possible partner. The right person will come, if you go outside and take on hobbies, you enjoy. It is possible, that the relationship doesn't hold forever. But enjoy the happy moments.
I myself just came out of a 16y long relationship, and it's okay. We both grew togerher, had awesome times, but our interests and values shifted. This can happen and it's not the end of the world, although it hurt for some time.

[pinkpetals155]

Yeah I agree and I’d never wanna pressure my partner into anything or be anything that’s not realistic cause I know more than anything that would strain our relationship and even if it don’t work out we should at least be mature enough to break up on good terms more than bad

[pinkpetals155]

I also don’t plan on having kids I wanna be as free as possible and motherhood isn’t my thing

[LunarScyphozoa]

Take this advice with a Big grain of salt, as I’m a gay asexual man who met his current partner online and only ever had the one, but our 4 year anniversary is coming up so clearly something worked.
You have to want a friendship in order to get romance, in my experience. Not in a “Having friends is just a stepping stone to screwing them later” way. But if we look at relationship types taxonomically, dating is a subspecies of friendship, so if you want to get a partner, the best way is to just make friends you share interests with and enjoy spending time with, and if you develop feelings for any of them, be honest and see what happens. My partner and I were friends for a while, a mutual friend suspected we were dating and told us, and we went “Well, we are now, good idea.” which is… very specific and not something I can recommend expecting to happen. But shows you don’t need to be constrained by the whole “Go on a million first dates with everyone you might be compatible with” idea of dating. Just be nice, have an open mind, respect people’s boundaries and have a firm grasp on your own, and someone will happen to you eventually.

[pinkpetals155]

Yeah I like that and I mean just having friends in general not necessarily for dating but so I have a support group if I have a bf or get one I’d know the people around me will be real with but supportive but if I ever have a guy friend and we do end up liking each other then it wouldn’t be bad

[pinkpetals155]

I also have somethings I’ll
Never restrict my partner from like. 1. Letting him have female friends society like to make it romantic when a guy and a woman who are merely platonic or dating and I’m not one to get jealous if he did have female friends it’s a good thing actually 2. I’ll never complain if he gets on the game unless it’s genuinely becoming a concern and he lets me play with him cause I also like video games. 3. I’ll never threatened to play hit or even hit him out of playfulness cause it should be common knowledge that some people don’t like those kinds of things and maybe it isn’t abusive but but I wouldn’t treat him like a punching bag

[pinkpetals155]

And honorable mention is never pressure my bf into anything he isn’t into cause if he’s not comfortable I’m not comfortable either so whatever he decides and if he’s comfortable that makes me comfortable knowing he’s comfortable