Vaguely going off the discussion some people started around the categories here on tapas, I think I've stated this before but the site would benefit from adding a gl genre and an lgbt genre. Mostly for the sake of their own appearance. Having a bl genre but no gl genre makes it look like the site is actively trying to erase lesbians - which it sin't btw, the site has promoted GL comics since long before they added the bl genre. I'd argue they promoted GL stories since before the bl uprise truly hit them at all. So basically they need the appearance of the site to match their actual approach to lgbt content.
Another reason we need a gl and lgbt genre is so that consumers of that content can more easily find what they're looking for. I often say a big part in making lesbian or trans representative content more visible is actually making it yourself, but another primary part is the ability to be found. GL has tons of consumers waiting to find it, many of them already on the site consuming BL as we speak! You would be surprised to see how much of the BL fanbase is lesbian women or bi/pan women in lesbian relationships.
All of that being said, and turning back to the topic itself, I think I would still label most of my content as BL going forward. Mainly because the problem with bl is not an inherit one, but a cultural one. It can be changed if enough progressive content is added to the batch, and through that we can change expectations and the perception the consumers of the genre have of the gay community.
You don't need to be lgbt+ to produce progressive, positive gay content. All you need is to be educated.
Being lgbt also doesn't mean everything you make is automatically positive for the gay community. Lord knows there are some active content producers on, say, youtube.... who give homophobic/transphobic people a LOT of ammunition in their desperation to be accepted by bigots and nazis as "one of the few good lgbt folks".
Putting that aside, I think many of us gay people can count at least a few major mistakes we made in the stories we wrote when we were younger. Young people do dumb shit, and I think that's worth keeping in mind in general when you analyze some of the bl content in webcomics today. Young people don't understand relationships properly yet.
The same can't be said for professionally published yaoi where they use blood as lube. No excuses accepted there.