I`m not a fan of posing and wearing a mask neither. Personally i aim to be as upfront as possible, but i can tell you this:
1-Everything a person wants to say can be said in more than one way.
2-Some ways of saying the same thing can make people more receptive to the message.
3-Different people are receptive to different ways of saying something. Some appreciate a blunt reply, but others may need some sugar coating.
So, basically, it is possible to be yourself without it causing you trouble.
Well, about the finances: there are some expenses that can be reduced. Writing down your income and expenses with their ammount can help you to have a cleared idea on what is and isnt neccesary.
Avoid using credit cards unless is really neccesary, and if you do, make sure you pay in time,those interests are soul stealers.
If you can afford it, having an insurance is a good idea, make sure you read well what aspects cover and which one would be better for you and your field.
Give yourself a goal to save some money every month and save it exclusively for emergencies. (a 10% is usually a reasonable ammount)
When you are in a situation that is stable enough, you can save another 10% that is for stuff you may want, like a new computer.
In the end, finances are math, so i know you can nail your money management when you order the numbers in your head and write it down.
i thought nowadays porn required way too many poses
Now the serious reply:
While i don`t question your potential in the porn industry, i personally dont recommend it to you, because it can undermine your credibility in your field due to prejudice among other factors.