I had numbing cream when I got mine. When it comes to oral piercings it makes a huge difference since the lips are so receptive to numbing cream
Also my cat avoided me like the plague the first few weeks. He didn't start letting me interact with him much until mum came home to me, forced him out from under the bed and took care of his claws (had to be done since they were getting long). He purred in her lap. So we basically have had to force him to take our love.
Now that we've gotten him to that point, he's the one forcing himself onto me and my sister. It becomes a bit of a nuisance when I try to work.