I understand your perspective and thoughts. Personally, I've experienced this with my own fight and people have told me time and time again to "be positive" and that it's proven to help my situation, but they are also aware that it isn't easy, they just aren't sure what else to say because they aren't me. They have good intentions, but it can be seen as a bit insensitive. I am sure @scribesunlimited didn't mean it to be insensitive, but it was probably said in a way that came across as so unintentionally. People want to give positive and hopeful vibes and I get that. I do too, but perhaps I can't find the right words sometimes and if I ever say it in a way that isn't as I intended, I don't mind if people call me out on it. I like to call each and every one of us fighters. We have our good days and bad days. Some of us don't have to fight as much or maybe some of us have to fight much more. People in my life who, even if they don't completely understand my perspective in its entirety, I know that they are trying to help me in my fight, they're people trying their best too and, sure even telling me the same thing over and over again maybe not be the right words, but I take what I can from those words. It might not be able to win a fight, but it has never hurt me to know people are trying to help or caring about one another. Support and love might not always have the right words, but the manner in which they're trying to lift your spirits or inspire you can have a positive impact on you. And it's also not uncalled for that you also express your thoughts about their words as well. I blew up at a loved one and told them that I had had enough of people telling me this or that when they aren't me, but I also know it was insensitive of me to say that because I'm not them either, they're also saying those words at me to also try and tell them for themselves too. They're going through this fight with me as well as their own fights and I think understanding those sides can help one another.
If I am total off base, let me know, I may have just gotten into a conversation that reminded me of my personal experience but perhaps I have a perspective that doesn't quite fit xD
Much love to everyone!