There have been several stages of feminism throughout the decades, and usually, the movement was centered around certain aspects based on the era.
The first wave dealt mostly with getting the women's right to vote, and as time went on, there was an increase for the need to have equal pay and respect in the workplace. A big example of that was during World War 2, when housewives and mother had to take over a lot of the jobs the men were "supposed to do" while they were off to war. However, when the war end, "social order" had to be restored. That didn't happen.
As time went on, moments like this led to the second wave of feminism, which can be seen throughout the 50s to 80s (maybe add the 90s in there). The career woman was what shaped feminism then, and quite often, if you were a housewife or a mother, that didn't "sit well" with that idea of feminism because you were supporting the "man is the breadwinner, woman is the caregiver" ideal.
As of now, feminism has gotten better, but hasn't entirely evolved from that. As with many movements, there were still some divide from within. This includes the subjects on race, LGBT+, religion, and toxic masculinity, and all of these had to be accounted as well.
Even now, we still struggle with people trying to advocate for feminism without realizing that not every woman is the same and that not every man in the same. The feminism agenda for a white woman might not be the same for a black woman. The agenda for a cis woman might not be the same for a trans woman. The agenda for a Jewish woman might not be the same for a Muslim woman.The agenda for someone who idenitifies as a man might not be the same for someone who identifies as a woman. Etc. etc. etc.
The official stance should be "men and women are respective equals who should have the opportunities to do what they desire. And that what they choose to do with their lives should be respected" As long as your lifestyle is not hurting anyone and everyone is consensual (and of age and all that), no one should be on your neck about. For example:
- If a woman wants to be a housewife/stay-at-home mother, she can. If she wants to be a career woman, she can. If she wants to do both, she can.
- If a man wants to be a househusband/stay-at-home father, he can. If he wants to be a career man, he can. If he wants to do both, he can.
That also includes the support of sex workers (women and men). It also takes into account that one's social status because of other oppression or privileges also has a leading factor in one's contribution to feminism.
Now, it takes into the account that people within and on the outside might not always agree with the decisions people make.
But in the end -- the idea is that these lifestyles still have to be acknowledged, as well as respected.