I've heard quite a bit lately that actually the Daily Snack and New and Noteworthy might not be super helpful for growing a readership necessarily.
Say you're not quite there yet, or even if you are, if you get into the Daily Snack, people will look, click and subscribe but it might just be because you're in the Daily Snack - and then they turn into a dead subscription which hurts your rates on Tapas.
I'm definitely guilty of just clicking stuff and never getting around to reading it. I need to be more aware of what I'm doing.
Whereas if you build your subs completely alone over a longer, much more painful time, they are much more likely to be truly yours because they found you and made the decision alone. I found the podcasts super useful because I wanted to get picked before and now I'm much more prepared to be patient.
Unfortunately I don't know super much about the Tapas criteria but my friends run a online writing thing-y and they always do a quick Google of anybody they're going to endorse in case they're doing or saying that might make the website look bad so I reckon your instinct to avoid drama is good. They told me that they won't take anybody whose bashing other writers, bashing their or other writing sites, not updating regularly, over-sharing, being negative a lot, etc etc so I also try to stay on top of my art related social media and make sure it's squeaky clean and friendly.