Why Do Writer Keep Falling Into This Trap?

@DiegoPalacios also known as the rock guy
Sun, 15 Nov 2020 14:15:12 +0000

@DiegoPalacios wrote:

HGohwell:

What the authors are usually going for is a positive message about how abuse doesn't have to define you and weigh you down and you don't have to angst over it constantly because you made it through and you are not like them. However, this often gets lost in the execution and handling and actually comes out as abuse is good because it made you the way you are

I think it comes from "what doesn't kill you makes you stronger".....but while people can grow because of adversities, is not always the case, and seing the bully as a lesson only pass the blame to the victim.

ar-ninetysix:

"Those abused tend to turn into their abusers one way or another" and "those abused will always stay a victim"

This is not neccesarilly true....Some people learn to defend themselves and others. And while being a victim of abuse can attract other abusers, in some circumstances one can fight back.

The problem with both extremes is that people end up defining themselves by the abuse, which one way or another, is not healthy.

We all struggle in life in different ways, but these are circumstantial. People react differently to those situations, sometimes a person is prepared to handle them, other times, they dont.

But what i want to say, is that it is never too late to learn how to handle these situations. People picked on me in school, but i learned how to defend myself and to not care about what people think. Will i thank them?.....no, but i will thank the people that supported me and helped me to become stronger.