Why Do Writer Keep Falling Into This Trap?

@Iris-Grimoire Irisgrimoire_
Sun, 15 Nov 2020 14:28:03 +0000

@Iris-Grimoire wrote:

I think it ends up showing up as an attempt to cope with the situation. It "worked out in the end" because something positive or useful came out of it, even if the truth is that it was a "waste of time" (in a very loose sense of the term) and the person/character's coping mechanisms would've been better off without trauma.
The best stories about recovering from abuse focus on the support that the person/character got and how true friends don't ignore red flags; not how "strong" they were. The example on the OP tends to just make people from the outside think the target is special somehow or that further trauma will be even better, or will create a dangerous comfy lie for people who haven't found a way to cope with theirs yet. Hell, sometimes the bad examples come from people telling those lies to themselves.

It's a complicated issue, really, but if you're not an example on your own, do research, see what to avoid, talk to people, as usual.