Who said anything about arguing? Thereās preaching in the sense that youāre just talking and then thereās being preachy, which is whatās annoying.
When I say āpreachingā I donāt mean attempting to argue or be adamant about persuading others. I mean stating your peace. And people can eaither take it or leave it. Stating what you think and believe, presenting an option or opinion, that isnāt pushing. Pushing is trying to make others see things your way forcibly rather than letting them choose to see things your way.
So yes you can preach without being pushy. Itās presenting a path, not forcing you (or trying to force you) to take said path. Make sense? Itās presenting a message, not barking out orders. You can certain be pushy while preaching, but that isnāt exactly unique to religion - Iāve met plenty of Atheists who attempted to convert me and proceeded to insult and berate me when I didnāt. Iāve also met Atheists with whom Iāve had civil discussions with, we both did our respective preaching, but neither of us presented ourselves as superior to the other. We frequently ended on āagree to disagreeā and we never insulted or belittled each other. I had said what I needed to say so that was the end of it, if they one day asked to come to church or something or started believing - cool. If not? Okay.
Iāve seen pushy preaching and non-pushy preaching. But what I was speaking of had nothing whatsoever to do with arguing. Personally I never bother to argue because most people who want an argument just want to egg me on. On occasion I am willing to discuss and present my viewpoint. What people do with it is up to them, I canāt make them listen. Thatās why I donāt argue about it.
Nevertheless people do often equate stating an opinion, option, or having a discussion to be in and of itself āarguingā or attempting to push an opinion onto others. Even tho itās not. Itās like thinking Iām saying āblue is a shit color and anyone who prefers it to red is an idiotā cuz I say āI like red, reds a good colorā. But I didnāt even say anything about blue, so youāre just projecting your shit into what I say. For example.
People are just... touchy. Touchy people take everything personally and act like a different opinion is like you slapping them in the face. Not much you can do when it comes to dealing with those types so Iām just all āwhatever, you do youā and hilariously enough itās like they get more offended when I say that... but hey thatās because Iām not the one changing my opinion. To those sorts a different opinion is being pushy. I grew up with tons of people like that. It was really annoying.
