I personally hate as much bad het romance as bad BL.
But I think what makes me really more upset about the common BL tropes and makes me even more unconfortable with the stereotypical roles and poor romance writing, is that for a long time, I could find relatable het romance, but very, very little relatable BL. I remember discovering BL when I was around 15 yo in the 1990', being so enthousiastic about the fact it existed, and then the immense disappointment when I actually read the comics. For a while I actually thought it was some kind of homophobic propaganda to be completely honest. I had to have friends to explain to me the cultural differences and the fact that is was not actually really LGBT works, etc. and got a bit less judgmental, but still, the typical BL is still at the least cringy and disappointing to me, if not worse.
I've never been a manga reader so that was it for my experience in comic-form BL, as for novel-based stuff, I kept an eye on for a bit longer but, nope...
Now, the situation has changed a lot in 20 years and I'm happy to see more LGBT content, some taking source in BL but going further than the stereotypes and tropes of the genre. That's really great! I don't think they are genres so bad that they can't evolve into something interesting.
But still, I have so much of an old issue with the word BL that I'm decided to publish any m/m romance as 'romance', not 'BL'.
[Plus, for a pansexual non-binary person like me, separating romance into categories depending on sex or gender is weird (however I understand it on a marketing point of view). I'm aware that this specific point is very personal though.]