Differently by every person in the community?
In one year on this forum I had my worse
experiences on forums (and I started in 1995!), especially with people refusing discussion, flagging, muting etc; but I also met a lot of very nice people who act like they feel the same, but I'm not in people's heads
What I could say is that the way people perceive me is unusually contrasted here, which is not something I'm used to. I'm used to moderating roles (either officially or more casually), and it sure does not feel like it here