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Jan 2019

So I have a friend who I like but I don’t know how to ask him out! Any advice on how I could ask him out without it being weird between us?

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The best thing to do is to handle it calmly. Does he feel the same way back for you and if you think you could have a real relationship with him not just a crush. Are you two compatible romantically? Is he what you want in a boyfriend? Are you want he wants in someone in that way? Weighing out if your feelings are serious or not helps you determine if you should ask or not.

However, I warn you that it is never going to not be weird even if you are serious because you're asking someone out. It would feel weird even if you weren't friends to begin with. The only thing you can do is make it less weird is to ask calmly, privately and with the right words. Chances are if he feels the same way, he feels weird being asked no matter what so it's not the two of you. It's just the nature of asking someone out.

Everything @MK_Wizard said is absolutely fantastic advice. Listen to her.

It will (almost) never not be weird. Asking someone out is an inherently a weird feeling. It's completely possible to move past that weirdness in the long run, however, and maintain a positive friendship or relationship with them regardless of what happens.

Just to let everyone know, I am a woman. I prefer being called "she/her" than "they/them". I respect gender neutrality, but I take pride in my identity and being a woman is part of that :blush:

Don't be. If anything, thanks for thinking my advice is good. That's what really mattered to me.

I'm sorry, but I really don't understand the difference between going on date (as far as I know, "ask out" means invitation for a date?..) and just spending the time together, if you already spend time together from time to time.
If the actual purpose is to seduce him, I'd suggest to ask what does he think about sex between friends (not exactly with you, but in general, to give yourself opportunity to retreat if he thinks badly about it). ¯_(ツ)_/¯

P.S. Take all of my advices on romantic topic with a grain of salt. I am actually not good in romantic things, LOL.

Thanks for the advice LOL I’ll keep those in mind I just really don’t want to ask him out and end up getting rejected and ruin our friendship​:sweat_smile:

I would think doing ANYTHING based off an episode of Seinfeld would be a bad idea! :smile: