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Aug 2021

I cannot understand why someone would offer to join a project just to say that they are too busy for it. Why even respond if you know that? That is very weird to me.

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it's actually not as odd as you may think. one the one hand it's worth noting and simply accepting the fact that life is full of unexpectedness so just about anything can come up out of virtually nowhere and drastically alter someone's level of availability

on the other hand are those who commit themselves to too many things at once, be it unintentionally or because they're very confident in their ability to handle a number of things only to be able to manage just a small few. I've been guilty of this in the past.

In most cases though a person usually doesn't do so with ill intent and sometimes it is a bit of mismanagement on their part and in the few rare cases someone is doing it intentionally there's usually some other behavioral pattern that gives hints into whether or not that'd be the case. think group projects and the one who purposefully makes tons of excuses as to why they can't help versus the one who actually has a bunch of things going on and thus can only contribute a little bit here or there

i think this is why generally i try to give folks the benefit of the doubt and in cases of myself or another having a busy schedule find means to compromise so that everyone is ab;e to work at a pace that wont impede in/on other things.

also gotta note this post seems really vague so idk the specifics of whatever circumstances you're in but i hope you won't hold a grudge as to whatever may (or may not who knows) have happened

What's the timeline between when they committed and when they said they couldn't do it? Sometimes life changes. Also people like to help and over commit themselves.

I had a friend ask for someone to make her a cross stitched sign. I like to embroider and I wanted to be nice so I said I would do it. As soon as I put her text into a stitch generator and started trying to make the sign look nice (adding a border and a small design) I realized it was way more work than I wanted to do. I felt like I jerk but I had to tell her I wouldn't do it. I wanted to help when I thought it was a small project. When I realized it was a larger one I couldn't do it.

What are the specifics of the situation?

There's also times, when as a creator, you join a project based on a sales pitch that doesn't fully line up with the actual nuts and bolts of the project. The time and energy commitment doesn't add up in the new situation so the situation changes.

Great answer from @VibrantFox!
Depending on the situation? Some people understand it's too much work for them, simple as that. Or they are afraid to commit to a project, yesterday they were hyped and thought they could do it, but today is not that day anymore.
Or, even, a lot of writers here don't bother to write anything particular about their story while seeking for a collaborator, so when a collaborator finally gets to the story, they understand they don't like it and don't want to participate and they are just trying to be polite.

OP you've been posting asking for collaborators on here for your virus story for months. Is this post about that?

Well, there are many reasons. I have had a few issues myself, but I came to understand that life changes. One day something can be grand and next there is a sudden explosion of life. That's the thing, life is forever changing and so are the people with it.

Just gotta wait for the right partner to come along, artist or writer.