If you met a person with unusual physical characteristics would you honestly feel weirded out by them or not?

[Silver7]

Lets say you met a person with unusually big eyes to the point where they look alien, would the person's unusual eyes or appearance cause you to feel strange about associating with them frequently?

Please I need some honest answers

[kyupol]

Initial response yes. I'd be weirded out. But 5 seconds later, it will be more curiosity and I'll try my best to not make them uncomfortable by staring too long at those eyes.

But then again, if such beings exist, they probably are so "psychic" they see right through you. And can probably see things outside the range of human sight (400-790 THz)

[cherrystark]

I think context is really important. For example, I have sensory issues. I remember a kid on my school bus who always sat right in front of me, and from his position, I had a straight view of his ears. This kid was developmentally disabled, so let's just say his ears didn't look like a typical person's do. It may sound silly, but with the way my brain processes information, I wasn't comfortable around him. It had nothing to do with him. He's a sweet, sweet boy; it's just how my brain worked.

But then I've known people with large port-wine stain birthmarks or uneven limbs. Once a relationship is established, for most people, you don't even acknowledge their "difference"; it's just a small part of who they are.

[abigaillmartin]

I would freak out dude. With large eyes. Like legit.

I wonder if it would have to do with anything with me being terrified of being stared at. Especially with a group of people or crowds.

[moontokkym]

You've... Already asked this question like 10 times. Blue skin, big eyes, weird hair, whatever the others were, you're gonna get the same answers:

• some people will be
• some people won't be
• most people will be initially surprised but will base their actual view and affection for the person on their personality because that's what relationships are made of

I actually have a character with massive eyes, and beyond some initial scepticism the characters do not bring it up because she's just like that. This was based on every single interaction I got in highschool when I came wearing full Gothic lolita clothing, cat tights and ribbons and lace everywhere. People just get used to it surprisingly quick.

[cherrystark]

You've... Already asked this question like 10 times. Blue skin, big eyes, weird hair, whatever the others were, you're gonna get the same answers:

some people will be
some people won't be
most people will be initially surprised but will base their actual view and affection for the person on their personality because that's what relationships are made of

@Silver7 They make a really good point. You live in the world with the rest of us. Weirdos have always existed. Unless the person is causing physical harm to someone else, most people just ignore the weirdo to let them live whatever way they want to. And as a writer, you get to choose how other people respond to your scenario.

[abigaillmartin]

@Silver7 People look different and that’s okay. If everyone looked the same the world would be very boring.

[KevinReijnders]

Imagine how much easier it would be to make stuff like clothes though! Literally everything could be one size fits all

[abigaillmartin]

@cherrystark I have sensory issues too and a motor control disability called Dyspraxia which is hard for me to differentiate left and right, I have poor hand eye coordination and processing time takes longer for me.

I have a lazy eye and crooked bottom teeth and for years I hated my teeth. I always thought I looked ugly. I got cosmetic surgery on my top teeth and I look a lot better now and I’m happier with my smile more than ever.
I love my eyes so much and I always thought they were a pretty blue.

What I had to realize there’s a lot of beauty in the strange. I had to accept that part of myself because it’s who I am.

I don’t know what I’m saying. Yeah that was my point.

There is a lot of beauty to be found even when someone looks a little strange. And it’s not strange. It is uniquely beautiful.

[WLHcomics]

Tbh yes, that would be absolutely terrifying imo. I wouldn't want to judge anyone, but how do I know if they're human or not?

[WLHcomics]

1 that's a really cool drawing.

And 2 I haven't been on here for awhile, so I definitely need a little bit of context. Has op actually asked this question multiple times now?

[cherrystark]

I'm still struggling to like myself in my own way. I have a short torso and a wide ribcage, so my brain always translates that into "fat" and therefore "unlovable," even though I'm probably closer to Ilona Maher in body type. It's taking a lot of work, but you're definitely right. There's so much beauty in the world. People might notice your differences at first, but after a while, they don't even register them. So if the ones who truly love you don't notice, why should you notice?

[Leyelle]

Depends. It would take getting used to, but if they were a good person I would eventually learn to get over it

[abigaillmartin]

@cherrystark
Ohhh poor thing! 🥺️
virtually hugs you

[Lensing]

I would find it really weird, everything out of the "norm" feels weird and that´s human nature.

It wouldn´t cause me to feel strange about associating with them frequently is my honest
answer.

One girl in my class, when I was a teenager, had that thing that she blinked all the time, really
fast. Of course it looked appeared super weird, but you get used to it fast and treat that person
like everyone else.

I felt like being treated like an alien when I was younger for looking younger than I actually am.
You can´t imagine how much this can suck for a guy. Especially when people treat you like it´s
something really weird. I was 20 and people didn´t believe me and said I looked like I´m a teenager
etc., when I was 30 I still had a babyface. It sucks when you flirt with someone your age and
they think you are way younger than them and then they are like "WHAT???! This can´t be true...blabla"
But the tables turn when you are 50

[moontokkym]

1 thanks

2 he's not asked this exact question, the "big eyes" thing is new, but he's asked variants of "If there was a person in real life that looked different, would you still treat them like a human/want to date them?". A lot of them have also been oddly gendered? Like one was "could you still find a female with blue skin attractive enough to date?" (female being his vernacular).

I don't think I've ever seen him ask a question about people would react to relationship situations or personality (unless you count "like Samson, is it foolish to put your trust in women because they will betray you?"), most of the time this hypothetical person's attitude isn't even mentionned, so over time there's really been a build up of the feeling that the underlying belief this kid has is that appearance is way more important in relationships than it actually is. Despite these threads always coming down to most people saying "that's odd but it depends on how they act" every time, the questions keep popping up with a different "weird" usually "alien" element we'd potentially judge a step too far.

From what I can tell, the kid's grown up in one of the more cult-ish sects of protestantism (not sure if it's JW, Mormonism, one of the new baptist ones or fundieland, but it's definitely one of them), and he's got very narrow views of what's normal, believes a lot of Bible stories are litteraly true (beyond the historical stuff like "yeah, there was a dude with that name who lived there around that time") and he's also definitely stumbling across some Bible-based conspiracy theories online too, like he's talked about some of the wilder stuff the flat earth guys used to say about aliens and fallen angels (nephilim have popped up). Sometimes he seems to be trying to reconcile the cognitive dissonance between what he's being told about the world, and how people in wider society react.

[LunarScyphozoa]

Honestly man, even if I noticed (how much attention do y’all pay to other people’s eyes?!), I’d probably assume “weird cosplay technique” or “disability I’m unfamiliar with”.

[nightlyorbitals]

People often get weirded out by things that aren't usual, things that they have not seen before, or things that are unique and different from the norm, and that's completely normal. Feeling weirded out is one thing, but choosing to treat them differently based on their appearance, isn't quite the proper thing to do. People in general, are way more than their physical vessels, we have a complex mind that makes each person unique, thoughts, and feelings. I don't believe a physical appearance is something we should rely on when choosing to associate with someone, but to see them as who they are as a person, to share our mind and see if we have deeper connection and understandings that resonate with eachother.

[WLHcomics]

Ok, that explains a lot, I just genuinely thought that maybe that was his "type," like how some people like feet, if you know what I mean... But that makes a little bit more sense to me now. I personally am a religious person myself, I'm not to that point of being "out of touch with reality," but I still believe that there's something out there because of weird stuff I've seen throughout my whole life.

But op probably should take a break from the Internet, especially away from conspiracy theories. I know a work friend of mine is starting to go down that rabbit hole and I can see that it's causing him a lot of problems.

[moontokkym]

Yeah, there is kind of a context to know before you get where the weirdness is coming from.

Also to be 100% clear, I don't put all religion, not even all of christianity in the "cult-adjacent" box. Though I'm not religious I grew up surrounded by pretty intense christianity, and even them in their bigotry I wouldn't call culty, they were just kind of choosing to interpret the Bible in a way that made them think some groups weren't "pure". I've also seen first hand what good can come from religion, so I really hope what I said doesn't come off as judging all religion, it's that this kid is growing up in some off the deep end stuff which I recognise from my research into different real life cults and conspiracy theories i did to write a high-control group terrorist cell, and it's making him susceptible to conspiratorial thinking.

Unfortunately I don't think he listens when people advise a break TwT he also usually avoids responding to anyone who brings up that some of the stuff he's saying comes from known conspiracies (in a nicer way than I have here, I'm not saying stuff to be mean to him, but I'm not making an effort to cushion the facts either) and when it's said he'll just kind of chill for a while and then come back with the same thing but different wording, or occasionally he'll come back with a new branch of stuff that's also kind of out of step with reality.