Is anyone here close to the age of 21, situated in southern california, and willing to share their real name?

[JoshRaed]

I don't really have any friends.

[powerplantanimations]

Yeaaaaaaaaaah I wouldn't recommend doing that... here. I think you should use the meetups app or something. I don't think this is the best place to do that. Especially with you being around the age of 21 and asking for people to meet you in an... admittedly creepy way?

Even if you aren't a bad person, who's to say someone here isn't like the Zodiac?

But yeh, Meetups. Download on your phone. Go mountain climbing or take up boxing or something.

[DasIstWunderblyat]

Sweet, I need some kidneys! Hmu

[morganicfoods]

everyone here is, if you believe

[MelancholicOtaku]

Not going to lie this sounds sus

[JoshRaed]

I don't know how to word it in a way that's not suspicious. Also I thought this forum would be better than random social media because it's full of other comic fans and stuff.

[moontokkym]

You're in SoCal... I'd say like @powerplantanimations said: take up a hobby, you'll have way more chance making friends by actually going out and meeting people. If you're in any of the cities in SoCal you'll find artistic hobby groups to join. Look for a weekend art class, or a comic book club, or go to a bookstore and have a chat with the staff to see what they'd recommend for you, or there might even be an actual comic class...

Like for real though asking for someones' age, location and real name, plus that age being really close to the age of majority raises so many red flags, and if I hadn't seen how you're just actually that awkward on the forums before, I'd assume criminal intent.

[Kelheor]

Also to find internet friends you don't have them to be located near your living area.

[NickRowler]

Tapas is an international website, people here are from all over the world. Plus, it’s not really appropriate to be asking people for their real names. Look up local groups or clubs instead.

[RedLenai]

Dude, don't go around giving your personal information to total strangers in the internet, is not safe nor good.

People are from all around the world in the forum, and asking for the real names is honestly not a good thing either, you don't need that information neither others want that information shared.

If you need friends you need to figure out why you don't have them in the first place, then if you want people from around your area then you'll have to go do activities in communal spaces there, be it a sport, course, classes, similar. But you need to work on and self reflect why you don't have any friends, be it blood related like a cousin, or someone from childhood or high-school. Because even if you go to those communal spaces, if your attitude and certain social etiquettes are the issue then you'll end up with no friends either.

If you're going to therapy work on that with your therapist, if you're on the spectrum then you'll probably need some cognitive behavioral therapy.

[sushy00]

I think you'd better ask for people around your age (in California) and then exchange messages and stuff, see how the friendship goes (so no need to exchange names immediately).

[JoshRaed]

If you need friends you need to figure out why you don't have them in the first place,

It's because my relationship with my parents is in a weird place where I still have to ask them for permission to go out and stuff, and I don't have a car so anywhere I'm going they're going to have to drive me there. I'm pretty sure that I've spent a full week without leaving the house more than once. I think I might have been 6 the last time I met someone my age outside of a school setting and talked to them.

Also the last few friends I had or almost had turned out to be bigots.

[JoshRaed]

I asked because I planned to actually meet them in real life after we both established that we're real people.

[MelancholicOtaku]

I understand that you want to make friends,we all do humans are social creatures but please be careful about meeting other people online,I don’t know you,you could be a really nice person but asking for peoples real names isn’t the safest option,as I said in real life you could be a nice person but I’m not taking the chance in telling you or anyone else online my personal information because I value my safety.

[joannekwan]

You could potentially take some community college classes and meet peers that way.

But posting a random call for the public to see is a bit too risky, so I will close and unlist this thread. Please be safe navigating the internet! You never know who's on the other side.

[joannekwan]

[joannekwan]