Is it sensitive to be upset if someone joking says they are going to hit you

[pinkpetals155]

For me personally a little I don’t really like though I myself have said it before never out of malice but I don’t like it cause it’s threatening but not at the same time what do yall think

[kyupol]

Depends on context. At my job, people joke all the time with statements like "I'll k1ll you" "I know where you live" "I'ma f@ck you up..." and think nothing of it. Cusswords fly all the time as well.

[pinkpetals155]

I mean maybe but I’m sensitive as fuck and sometimes people who say that might be serious donuts always best to keep that in mind even in jokes

[pinkpetals155]

And I was never hit as much during my childhood but I had experiences that were intense but I was loved very much and had everything I could have asked for nonetheless and sometimes I wish I could have been better and I wish my parent could have been better

[pinkpetals155]

Also getting off topic and none of yall have to say it if you don’t want to I won’t bite your legs but is it ok if yall can wish me a happy birthday it’s on the 6th of this month and if you have a birthday that’s in October I will wish you a happy early birthday

[cila_the_great]

Happy early birthday dude! ️

[VibrantFox]

i think its a completely normal thing and doesn't serve as any indication of being overly sensitive. you're just establishing a personal boundary regarding comfort and a way of speaking. some people like to tease friends and others may be the type to play fight or hit but if its something that makes you uncomfortable you're allowed to say that you prefer to be left out of that kind of joking and instead prefer something else and a good friend will honor and respect that boundary

for me with work friends the established boundaries are those typical of a formal work setting so there's not a whole lot of physical contact other than maybe polite hugs or a handshake but i know that even in high school or middle school with my friends we were all fine with laying out what we were or weren't comfortable with and had no issue respecting those boundaries. its the basis of building healthy relationships and helps make you a stonger communicator.

granted there will always be folks who dont care to acknowledge or respect boundaries but there's ways to go about navigating that as well.

but happy birthday when it gets here

[pinkpetals155]

Thank yall much appreciated

[cila_the_great]

I totally understand that and sometimes I don’t pick up when they are being serious and actually mean. As someone who was picked on a lot, I learned not to take everything as a joke. It’s not being overly sensitive though it’s just sometimes things can go too far. They might not mean it, they might, but it’s hard to tell.

[pinkpetals155]

That part but I can differentiate when it’s serious and not I’m just sensitive af