I wasn't even saying so much that there's appeal in a hot mess, but just that I think everybody has a lot to deal with. If they appear like they don't...I'm not even sure that's completely possible, they might just keep it to themselves really well. I do prefer transparency over looking to appear put-together, if that counts as appeal. But I guess I just feel that if I find someone I really know I love, then even if they have a lot of garbage to deal with, i'm willing to be there with them as they work through it, loving the person they are, not just hoping they'll become different.
That said, a relationship WOULD be impossible if Kattar kept acting like batman, so that would have to change before hand, but he's trying.