Well duh. The Holy Grail is comments, not subs when you get down to it. I totally agree with you - someone being all "Ah I haven't gotten subs in a few days but the people I have always comment!!" can get sickening because of jealousy and frustration. Thing is, that's no reason to take away from someone else's gains just because you feel like crap. Don't like it, then don't read their threads, don't reply, and just go continue creating until you can be that kind of whiner. Personally I hope I can be that whiner in the next few hours, but hahaha I'd rather just sit and write than obsess.
I don't care as much as I used to. Closing the tab and not opening it 20 times a day is a great start. Logging out, so there's one more step to check, helps, too. As I've said before on this forum, I'm part of the invisible crowd. I still obsess over numbers from time to time but it's like a few hours a day every few weeks instead of a daily illness.
I don't wait for the other people to find my stuff. I post it so then I have a date of when I finished it, and if at some point someone comes in and binge reads it or starts and loves it and hits the like button a ton of time - fine. If they don't, that'll be me when I go back to re-read it in a few weeks, or when I binge read it myself.