Love Or Hate? Valentines Day

[sarrowsmith10]

For me, I always spent it with my family (Father-Daughter, Dances, Mother-Daughter Dances, brunch), and I've usually gotten my roommates candy and they the same for me. And I've loved the holiday in that aspect.

^^This

My parents always did something special for my brother and I growing up. It was always a day about love. Mom would cook heart shaped pancakes and dad would buy us valentines day lollipops to give away to our class at school. My parents continued to send candies to me even through college, regardless of my relationship status. Even now that I'm married, my mom gives me chocolates.

I think in 8 years of marriage my husband and I have had maybe 1 valentines day together? My husband is a firefighter so he always has been on shift. My husband and I go out on dates once a week or every two weeks, so its nothing really special. I didn't get him anything this year. However he left me a cute houseplant in my car this morning. So that's thoughtful.

A few friends from work dropped by and left me little cards and notes and things. (I've been too sick with pregnancy/morning sickness to even think about these things.. so I didn't get anything for others.. its bad I know)

I think this holiday is as stressful or happy as you choose to make it.

[moonfixer]

Honestly I don't care one way or the other about Valentine's Day. My wife is the same way.

[LyliClovis]

To be honest, I think I'd actually dig the finger set you got as a gift //laughs.
I'm neutral on Valentine's Day. But I love it because I get to draw a lot of lovey dovey stuff (guro included) \o/
Plus, the chocolate sale after V-day is heaven to me.

[panda3291]

I like the chocolate. Chocolate and chalky flavored hearts that will probably give me cancer some day.

[EntropicalForest]

Same, V-day has always basically been me going to dinner with my mother. I always found it pretty interesting the strong emotions V-day brings out in people both positive and negative.

[SpavVy]

I love the day after when all the candy is on discount!

[Strontium]

Valentines was the best in elementary school. We had a party and exchanged candy and cards. In the third grade I didn't finish all of the candy, so I decided to save a mini Twix bar for as long as I could in my bedroom, as a challenge to myself. It was squirreled away in one of my shelves until the 6th grade, when my mom and I were cleaning my room and found it. She made me throw it out XC

Mom used to buy my sister and I Beanie Babies on Valentine's Day too. I love those!

But I can't eat candy anymore and Beanie Babies suck now, so, there's nothing to love about Valentines Day for me.

[Wumbl]

I'm a pretty spiteful person, but even then...

I was indifferent towards it before, and now that I'm in a long term relationship I'm still indifferent. It's just an excuse for a date night as far as I'm concerned.

I also feel as if all those weird couples could be happier if they paid as much attention to each other all year, rather than only taking one day out of the year to especially focus on each other. I'm in the kind of relationship where we just... care about each other the same amount all year. I dunno why that's considered weird.

[Jenny-Toons]

I also feel as if all those weird couples could be happier if they paid as much attention to each other all year, rather than only taking one day out of the year to especially focus on each other.

That's how I see it, romantically. Like -- if Valentine's Day the "All or Nothing" time for you and your partner, you're probably with the wrong person or you're complicating things. If you really like each other, the most you'll do is go somewhere nice with each other and just have fun. Or, if you're the type to throw a big gift for your partner, it should be out of love and respect and because you wanted to -- not because you were pressured to do so (as a LOT of people like to do during it).

It's what my aunt and uncle do -- none of that overly spending for one day. They go out to a nice restaurant and that's it. And it's not different from when they go out anyway. Because they love each other.

Maybe some people need that to know that someone loves them. But I'd pass on that.

[A-weird-girler]

I'm asexual but it's a good time to spend time with family

[spicy_sweets]

You can be asexual and in a relationship tho

Unless you mean aromantic?

[A-weird-girler]

Yeah but I'm not dating yet. I was, but she dumped me and went with my best friend

[starknights]

I don't really think of Valentine's Day as a day for lovers anymore.
I think it puts too much pressure on people, but I also think it's sad when others try to take the fun out of the day for those who truly enjoy it.

Personally, I've used it as a time to spend with my family or to treat myself as a special self-care time (because I am a workaholic and have to schedule in "me time" lol)

[beta1042]

I don't feel that strongly one way or another. But I'm also not a big holiday person to begin with. In fact the only holiday I really go all out for is Thanksgiving, and that's because I love turkey, but making the full Thanksgiving feast is way too much work to do more than once a year(And I don't do it with friends anymore because I love the leftovers that much I refuse to share them with others)

I guess I don't see much value in placing strong emotions to a holiday. I've found that if I get too hyped for something I tend to inflate it in my mind to a point where I'm always disappointed. But to completely ignore or disregard a holiday tends to hurt other people. So as a whole I'm just neutral on holidays and birthdays.

[Im_moron]

I am indifferent about valentines

because I have no heart... or something like that :Y

[Shanny8]

but making the full Thanksgiving feast is way too much work to do more than once a year

This... we only cook big for Thanksgiving and don't really much of anything for Christmas.

[Trickster511]

Love or hate? Hmmm......

I'll get back to you when I get a girlfriend....