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Oct 2017

So, I'm writing a story and I was thinking about having the main three characters being in a queerplatonic/romantic poly relationship.

What do you guys think of poly relationships (be civil please) and would read and like a story with a poly relationship in it? Or should I just say other scrap the relationship all together or just do two of them?

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If you want to write a poly relationship, write a poly relationship. There are always going to be people who don't like a particular theme, and it will make your story stand out from the rest of the romance comics. I think annoying cliches (e.g.: generating conflict through poor communication/misunderstandings) will probably lose you more potential readers than a poly relationship will.

If you are interested in writing a story about a polyamorous relationship, by all means do so! There's no point in removing that element from it just to please someone who would object to it. Make the story you want to, and let it attract or deter people for what it is. :slight_smile:

Edit: basically, what @gateofselidor said

Personally, I could never be in a polyamorous relationship. It's just not for me. There's nothing wrong with poly relationships and they absolutely work for some people - it's just a matter of personal preference.

Best of luck with your story! :slight_smile:

Go for it. I don't know of any writer to bring those sort of arrangements to the forefront, not since Robert Heinlein. I can say from experience that you can have romantic feelings for more than one person at a time. It's the practicalities of expressing that love where you run into problems.

I'm in a poly relationship and would love to see more of that expressed in media and entertainment as a normal, chill thing! :smiley: i mean i guess nobody's stopping you from making it a crux of drama, but it'd be great to see poly characters expressed as emotionally mature people who communicate and act responsibly. ;-;

I agree with @charliepeppersoap, I think it would be great to see it as a functioning relationship. Not that they can't have their troubles, but it really gives it a bad name when it centers around drama and attention tugging between people, you know?

My partner and I are poly too, and while neither of us currently have another partner, we've been through it before. If you need any suggestions for drama that don't pertain to the relationship being poly itself, feel free to hit me up!

There's way too little fiction where poly relationships are shown as genuine love rather than lust running freely and ruining THE FOREVER HOLY MONOGAMOUS RELATIONSHIP™
So go ahead. The more awareness the better.

My personal experience with poly relationships is extremely negative however I recognize that in my case, the problem was the people involved. Not the polyamory.

...but I'm never doing poly again. Screw romance, all I need is friends and cats.

There needs to be more poly relationships in fiction. It's a thing in reality, so why can't it be a thing in fiction?

I think they're great! As long as there's open communication and consent on all sides, queerplatonic/romantic poly relationships are just as healthy and positive as monogamous ones (if not moreso sometimes). The LGBTQ+ comic I'm working on creating actually has poly relationships as the norm, so it'd be really cool to read another story with them. I'd say go for it! =D Just remember, you'll benefit the most from reading anecdotes and advice from polyamorous people who can give you a firsthand perspective on it.

Yeah if they're realistic to poly relationships instead of some magical utopia of perfectness I see too much of. I'd like to see one where jealousy happens, where miscommunication happens and the reality a poly relationship is tricky to manage unless everyone can agree on everything and its not for everyone.

Really tired of people sugar coating what essentially is a school group project based on romance. We need realism folks.

I don't mind them. I would probably never be in one, for me is hard enough to trust one person to be in a relationship so imagine two or more...too much trouble.

In GGAR (Got Get a Roomie) there's a poly pairing they talk about it in some strips. The brother of one of the main characters is in one.

Also in Dumbing of Age but I am still not so sure if is a poly or an open relationship. Anyway they are not the main characters.

I would probably read it out of curiosity.

Regards!

Do it :smiley: I enjoy poly relationships actually- not saying I've been in one I think but reading about them in stories is enjoying.

I'd be interested to read it! I'm currently writing about the development of a poly relationship myself and I'm having a lot of fun with it, :grin: