AITA for adopting my late brother's child?
I (40sF) am a professional at the top of my field with a husband and three biological children of my own. My younger brother and I come from a wealthy, well-connected family, but when my brother was in his early 20s, he fell in with the wrong crowd and eventually left home, cutting off contact with the rest of the family. What my brother did to our family is neither here nor there, but suffice it to say he eventually returned, and we found out that during his wilderness years, he fathered a child with some cheap whore (now 40sF). Before I could find out where he left this woman and her child (to make sure they were taken care of), he left again (stealing a huge amount of our savings when he did!) and soon thereafter passed away.
After his death, it took me eight long years to track down this floozy who had my brother's child (once I got around to it; I was quite busy in the meantime; my career is incredibly demanding). When I did find themâwell, when my private investigators didâthey were living in squalor, and she was clearly still in the throes of addiction that also afflicted my brother. I guess we'll never know how they squandered all that money my brother stole from us, but squander it they obviously did! My family is very involved in government, so I was able to gain custody of my brother's son, and since then, I've been raising him without any contact with his birth mother (though the kid kept bringing her up; what is he, ungrateful?).
Anyway, now the boy has grown up and left home just like his father and is apparently leading some kind of "peasant revolt" (he is going through a rebellious phase). My husband seems to think it's my fault for "kidnapping" him from his mother, but my husband would just as soon have smothered him as a baby so he would not be a threat to our biological children, so I don't know if he can offer objective feedback. Tbh I'm a much better mom than his mom, anyway, and I gave my nephew everything he wanted growing up, so what do you think? AITA?