The Bitching thread 2.0

[Heliox14]

Sophomore year is a b*tch.
With the year coming to an end, the year decides to drop everything on us.

1. Poem analysis that needs to be done a week from now. The writer, by the way, is the overachiever of Philippine culture (and its national hero), Jose Rizal.
   His novels are hard enough, and now we have to do his poems?
2. Frakkin Science Fair tomorrow. So that means we're gonna defend our crapshoot of a thesis against 2 grade levels (with 8 sections each) who are trained in the fine art of ripping a thesis to pieces.
   Oh. And the infamous panelists.
3. A batch song. Yes, we have to make a song commemorating the (lack of) achievements done by our batch. Due next week.
4. And the stress of navigating the minefield called "social life".

Wow.
I really need to stop whining and start working...

[spicy_sweets]

So apparently there was no world music class today
I wrote a note about this in my book but completely forgot fml

[Jenny-Toons]

I know that feeling, love XD

Or like, when you head out from the dorm earlier because you thought the class was in 30 minutes, but no, it was in an hour.. XD

[dawgofdawgness]

Talked to my counselor about switching classes and told her about the guy in question (and started crying like a baby because I'm really unstable now apparently) and all she really said was
"Oh, him? I know him, he's a great guy. Go talk with him and figure things out"

AARRGH!! Basically now I'm morally obligated to stay in my history class. Because it's the "right thing to do". Nooooooooooooooo please. Please.i have enough stress in my life

[DiegoPalacios]

........really???, that`s terrible
Does she know you already tried to do that?,
(maybe you didnt told her due to the distress of the moment. I am asking just in case )

I really hope this gets solved soon.
I wish i have an idea how to solve this. If for any reason i get one, i`ll tell you.

And of course, i am here if you need to talk.

[dawgofdawgness]

Thanks again.. I'll think of a way
Sorry for bringing my angst onto forums lol

[DiegoPalacios]

Don`t worry,that is what friends are for.

Also, this topic is literally for that,

[Heliox14]

Da heck why??
What's with that counselor?

I don't know. Personally, it's fairly easy to sweet-talk a teacher. Or any person in authority.
Anybody could do it. You just need to be a little more persuasive.
And bring evidence. Like, cold, hard evidence. That should do the trick to make you switch classes.

Have you tried talking to someone higher than the guidance counselor?

But yeah, don't worry about putting angst down here. This is what this thread (and subsequent friends you meet in this thread) is for.

[TheThoughtfulBoxful]

... of course that's what happened. OF COURSE.
this kid sound like a real weasel if the adults think he's great but he's bullying you.

maybe you could change seats in your class? sort of to deter as much interaction with this guy as possible.

wow, I'm annoyed (for you, not because you vented)

started crying like a baby because I'm really unstable now apparently

...there's nothing wrong with being sensitive! especially considering the stress you've been under?

I probably I KNOW would've done the same thing! ;u;

[Shanny8]

About to have a mental breakdown over here. went home yesterday evening and got a prompt for a laptop update. I ran the update, and now my laptop has wonked out- it keeps going in circles during the booting process. Sat down with one of my I.T. co-workers & trying to see if we can recover the settings.

[caelenmustang]

I'm finally writing again ... and I have a giant headache

[GGY]

..........because nothing says "I care about your well being and mental health!" than by saying bullshit like that... ....I am so sorry. That councillor couldn't have been ANYMORE HORRIBLE AT THEIR JOB.

[Rhombik]

"Oh, him? I know him, he's a great guy. Go talk with him and figure things out"

This is a terrible response.

Maybe the counsellor gets a lot of people who've had little fights coming through the door. I know some of my students fall out every week then make up again. It might help if you went back and stood your ground.

By the way, you shouldn't have to. The counsellor is paid to take every problem seriously. This is not how we are trained to respond to students and makes me think she is being wilfully ignorant.

[dawgofdawgness]

Yeah..
She made it clear that she would be very "disappointed" in me if I had changed classes(she said it would be running away from my problems) , so I'm just sucking it up and staying I guess. Maybe the guy will stop ignoring me one day, but it's been two years soooo. Here's to hoping

[craicin]

imo people do this because they know you wont respond publicly so they can get away with it.

a lot of passive aggressive folk never do expect to be called out on. tbh,
if they're giving you grief. loudly announce. "Why do you never listen to me?" or "THATS OKAY I GUESS I DONT MIND APPARENTLY"
another one is make a joke to people in their presence about them. thats something i do a lot. like i remember this 1 dill weed talked down to me all the time and i passive aggressive out maneuvered them by joking loudly about how they talk to people like their stupid. 'cause then if it becomes confrontational. your like "it was a joke yikes why u so sensitive"

like i know thats hyper douchey, but you gotta just out maneuver them the one time and they back off.

i use to be a total ass-hat when i was your age. thats why i know this.

[TheThoughtfulBoxful]

She made it clear that she would be very "disappointed" in me if I had changed classes(she said it would be running away from my problems)

running away. from your problems.

there's so much bull in that statement I could open up a steakhouse.

edit: I cannot believe she's making you feel bad for wanting a better learning environment!
I'm not being much help, so i'll stop giving lip. but jesus... I really hope things get better for you, dawg.

(if I may ask, have you talked to your mom about this at all? do you think she would vouch for you to switch classes? sometimes parental involvement is necessary in these situations... especially considering your counselor isn't taking you seriously enough.)

[lunaartemisasama]

I was always told this phrase if there's no solution then there's no problem to begin with.
So don't stress out over that. I mean we can't we friends with everybody we have this phrase in my country "I am not a gold coin for everybody to like me".

If there's bullying involved then that's another more serious matter.

[ISNEKO]

I can't find the original post for this convo and I missed it but I'm assuming this is about some idiot bulling you. And I think you're in.....highschool?

My sympathies.

Too bad the universe didn't play out where we were in school together. I would openly beat that idiot. I was a violent person in school. But then we probably wouldn't even know each other, lol. My group of friends were all big scary nerds. Which was odd. Play Yu-gi-oh, watch anime, teach bullies hard lessons...

edit: inb4 that solves nothing. That's just how I was back then.

[Rhombik]

Argh no. The stuff you've told us is out and out bullying.

Can you go to somebody higher? Or threaten to? I bet that'd light a fire under her.

[DiegoPalacios]

Alright @dawgofdawgness , i got an idea. And it involves the truth. Try to apologise once more. (i know, it sucks, but is just one shot more). If he doesn`t forgive you try this:

Tell your counselor you already tried to apologise (which is true), but he didn`t want to listen/didt forgave you (which is also true). Then tell her he probably is not ready to forgive,(also true) and you think the healthiest thing for him and you is give him space. (also, completely true)

Sometimes you have to speak to people in their language. The counselor must see you are trying to do the right thing (which is true too) to be convinced.

Is not healthy for neither of you if this conflict escalates. I hope this gets solved soon.