idk man. i think arguments lead to people thinking out their ideas in full and coming to new conclusions, for sure. but fights? ppl simplify their side down to one point and stick to it no matter what. its what makes the atmosphere here so frustrating - you cant have a nuanced discussion when this stuff happens, because people are getting invested, theyre not thinking through their arguments. and people get dogpiled. its so hard to think clearly when you get dogpiled.
I feel that. The weather in my neck of the woods is cycling pretty rapidly these days, so my sinuses are going wild T_T .
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like admittedly they look tacky and very 90s but also i am a child and i like discovering these things its v exciting
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Except that there some people that love being argumentative about topics such as the one that was closed down. I dont really say much coz once certain people start to become unreasonable, logic goes out the door.
Well, we talked to our shitty roommate last week. Two weeks ago? Time's kind of a blur because of the weird job scheduling I'm in.
Nothing has changed. Every word I knew she would say came out of her mouth: "But I'm depressed! I've been suicidal! You're being unfair! Why didn't Caelen bring this up to me personally!?"
Because I tried
And all I got was her screaming at me
She's manipulative and cruel and I am so, so sick of this. She's talking about just moving out now instead of trying to keep improving. Fine. I'm tired of her shit, our other roommate is tired of her shit, and my partner is tired of her shit. Our roommate has SEVERE depression and has been hospitalized a few times for suicidal ideation, but he's now regularly seeing a therapist and managing his symptoms well with medication plus he has us as a support group he knows he can come to if he's feeling not-quite-bad-enough to see his therapist outside of scheduled appointments. I'm unmedicated depression and anxiety, but I've learned to cope because my insurance I have through my biological dad does NOT cover therapy or antidepressants. Again, I have a wonderful support group and I taught myself coping methods that work for my problems.
Her? She hides in her room all day. She baits people on dating sites into being assholes and then tears them down. She's unsubtly racist, immensely sexist/misogynist then swears she's a feminist, for real, and transphobic - constantly calls me by pronouns I do NOT want and never refers to my partner with their chosen pronouns, swears she's nonbinary too but that "she's too lazy to do anything except wear dresses" and tries to force me to try on extremely effeminate clothing on the rare occasion we go to the store together.
She won't seek medication, because "none of it works because of her metabolism," and she won't seek therapy, because therapists are just out to tell you that you're broken and nothing will fix you. obviously.
Just three more months.
Sounds like she does have some severe issues. Not too sure about the depression, I did grow extremely aggressive before my meds but that mainly just manifested as me testing my friendships/ picking arguments/random screaming fits, so can't really offer insight to that. Maybe she's bipolar, if she flunctuates a lot. Maybe she's just an asshole. The hiding in her room part sounds worrying, though.
People often refuse to get help because of a stigmatism, and since you don't know why she came to think like that I feel like it's a bit unfair of you to blame her. You could try to force help by calling somewhere (911?idk where you call where you're from, in my country you call emergency number if you worry about a depressed friend), but that'd backfire...But then again if you're so eager to get rid of her, maybe it'd be the best solution.
Ugh. Don't ever work as a cleaning lady or whatever it's called.
Everyone and their aunt seems to know my job better than I do, and people "like me" are apparently have low education and not only that, seen as dirt (IF EVEN THEY SEE YOU AT ALL).
I hate the stigma around that work, I do it because it's pretty good salary and I like my boss.
I'm honestly scared of telling people what I work with because of how they'll look at me with pity.
When I told people I worked as an usher/facility keeper/janitor (because it involved changing light bulbs, deliver mail and all that cool inhouse jazz I love doing), SUDDENLY I was a human being??
It's just... I'm just so tired of people thinking lowly of me, just because of my work. My work does not define who I am.
I'm also pretty sure that none of them knows my name, despite me working there for almost 3 years now, so I got that going on for me.
I just... I feel like the wrong person on the wrong workspace and I don't know what to do about it.
I feel the need of doing something different, but I honestly don't know what. (I do know what, I want to go back being a janitor again but that seems to only be reserved for boys because girls can't do that stuff, but guess what. I'm stronger than most people and that's just raw strength).
Sorry for the rambling, I needed to vent somewhere.
Oh man, that reminds me of this one time when I was working as a cashier at a hypermarket (in my country anyone who works as a cashier is presumed dumb and a failure)
I was cashing out some customer, she was perfectly pleasant. While she was packing her things up and I was doing some math related to the work (adding up bottle-recycle receipt thingies) she suddenly just turned to me and said;
"Don't you wish you had stayed in school now?"
I was like excuse me and just smiled and wen't "Actually I'm working here part time alongside my university...So I'm doing a 60 h workweek". Shut her up. It was so weird too, literally everyone in my workplace had higher education than high school...
yeah, my colleagues used to work as a hairdresser, spanish teachers and nurses.
I hate how people just assume that one's not "educated" just because they have a work.
At least I'm not on social benefits because I don't want to work (like some of my ex-friends) as it's "convenient".
(please note, I think it's awesome that we've got social benefits but it feels widely misused by people who are able to work, but won't because they don't get a job that's their dream job)
I'm a graduated nanny, I speak english (almost) fluently and it just angers me that people think it's ok to approach me and say their condolences for me having a work??
I just... What is that even??
And working as a cashier is awesome! I mean, I wouldn't be able to work with money as I have problems counting, but.. Honestly, it tells me more about that person than it does with me.
(I'm always friendly with cashiers and clerks, as they've probably met their fair share of angry customers and I always say Hi and thank you after I've shopped xD)
But like, why do people do that?
Why would they feel the need to approach someone only to say that they're looking down on people? It's just... Is that their way of being "friendly"?
Or don't they have enough social skills to know how to socialize?
Edit:
I'm truly sorry if I sound really bitter, but I'm just so tired of all that is work related atm xD
I learned so much chinese I forgot japanese and now I'm getting screwed over in spanish, my native language
Tell me about it. Whenever I speak French now, it turns into Slovak.
Je pense que môžem hovoriť iba jeden jazyk.
Don't get me started on my English.
I'm in the middle of a depressive episode and it's making getting work done 10x harder which only makes the episode worse and stresses me out more
whee
I'm so useless at the mo. I had the whole day off and just sat there looking at my work like I DON'T WANNA.
I envy creators who work in teams and share the load. I already have a tiring job and when I have a day off, I want that day off, and I don't want to spend the whole of it beating myself up for the privilege. Gimme a break!
@ratique
I'm going to disagree with you.
Thursday are the worst days.
It's just one more day before the weekend, and then they throw Thursday in the middle.
It's where the dreams of the weekend fester.
Yeah...now that you think of it...
I'm probably one of those people who don't of their arguments before releasing them to the general populace.
Hypocritus Maximus. XD
For me, fights are where you see the dedication to the idea. No matter how frayed the moral fiber gets, no matter how tiring it is to defend it, the dedication to the idea is there.
And in fights, there are some points where both parties take a time out, think about stuff, and get back to slamming two ideas together. Hopefully.
That's for the real people.
(Then there are those who pick a fight for absolutely no bloody reason. Those people...)
Anyways...about bitching!
The deed's been done. Gave a scumbag groupmate an F. With a coin, to boot!
(Feel so goddamn proud and ashamed of myself. XD)
He's just, to put it bluntly, a big pain in the arse. Him and his group I call the Dickwad Squad.
It just feels good to give him such a huge milestone to overcome. Revenge...that's going to be the death of me.
I mean, the Dickwad Squad think that they own the school. They're the "cool ones" when they're just posturing. Straw men, ready to burn.
I want to be the one to set them aflame.
Is okay, if the guy doesn`t help, he deserves an F, and if he wants a better mark he better starts contributing.
F is for fire to burn the load in group projects 
About the off the wall suggestions...here is a couple...
1-Go to a public place and make a "handshake evaluation stand". Here you ask people to give you handshakes so you can evaluate them.
when people asks you why you are doing this, say a made up statistic (or a real one if you find one) about how a good handshake can affect your business carreer.
After you receive the handshake, take notes and say loudly things like: "firm grip, but avoids eye contact", "too strong", "long enough", "too short", etc....
Then give them a piece of paper with a mark, (maybe from 1 to 10) and give them feedback about how a proper handshake must be.
2-Go to a public place and bring a chess board, or a deck of cards, or any relatively simple board game, like UNO for example. Ask people for a match. If you are feeling specially daring, challenge them.
Hope this helps. 
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