The watercooler: a place to chat

[spicy_sweets]

I have his trumpet and piano jazz too (*´∀｀)

[dawgofdawgness]

I googled it, it's called "toot suite"? amazing.

[DiegoPalacios]

(too much time developing anime-watching skills and not social skills; I was doing Naruto runs at recess back in grade 4)...

Don`t worry about that, we all have awkward phases in life ...Not everyone socialize in the same way. While some people enjoy partying others prefer other activities like watching shows together.

Also, there isn`t any good reason for cosplay to not be socially acceptable while costume parties are completely okay.

[kritb]

There's a dog that has been barking for 4 hours straight outside my hoousee .. Its 4.20 am ;;;;;--;;
Why my neighbors are like this? D>

[VibrantFox]

i feel like i'll regret saying this but maybe the dog was trying to blaze it? ;;=v=)

honestly though it's like the raccoons in my neighborhood or the cats that insist on late night death matches but maybe they have the dog to guard their house. Really it's hard to tell with people but that's something I've heard & been told

[kritb]

Sadly I just have some neighbors that forget their dogs outside at night. Its also raining, and i cant bring them here because they havent been socialised properly. They bark at everything and the owners just learned to ignore it...

Ooh. This isn't lighthearted chatter at all. )':

[jpnakashima]

Man, they left the dog outside in the rain? That sucks in so many ways )):

Where I live, there's this weird middle aged man whose house's window is right in front of my side of the building, so any windows of mine. Almost every night he'll start blasting songs super loud, sometimes rap, sometimes Brazilian funk, and he'll scream and slam his windows. He'll scream the lovely ''AAAAAAAH!'', the great ''Vai, caralho!!!'' (Let's go, swear word!), the amazing ''Acorda playboy!!'' (Wake up, playboy) and the awesome ''Vai Corinthians!!'' (Corinthians being a really popular soccer team in Brazil). He'll get tired of the music (or someone always call the cops, I don't know) after half an hour, a whole hour maybe, but he'll keep screaming for hooours at an end. He'll keep slamming his window.
I admire his fortitude and consistency.

[feardeer]

Anyone else get anxiety so bad it makes you physically ill? Like, fever or nausea for a day or two after whatever silly incident caused it? It's a problem and I'm upset about it. :T

It makes attempting to socialize and not be a lonesome goat for eternity very difficult.

[minerrale]

Social anxiety warrior here! I feel you bro...

You might want to :
1) try to understand what causes these
2) figure out how to lessen the symptoms (breathing exercices, counting things, focusing on one particular thing like finding as many geometrical forms in your environment etc.)
3) maybe talk to a specialist to see if you could use a therapy. There's absolutely no shame in that, and a lot of people go through it.

In any case, know that you're not alone, and that's some sort of coping mechanism your body has come up with to replace your "fight or flight" instincts because in our society it's no longer adapted.

[feardeer]

Thanks! I wish I could answer with more positivity, but unfortunately it's impossible for me to see a therapist right now. I know what causes it to happen, and I have no idea what to do about the symptoms. I usually just power through and try to keep my mind occupied. I have a lot of anxiety, and have found various ways to deal with different aspects of it (with varying degrees of success), but this particular foe is too powerful for me.

But anyway, I don't want to turn this into a therapy session haha. Just wanted to know if anyone else had this problem. :>

[minerrale]

I'd be willing to bet that most of us "creative people" face or have faced this kind of issues at varying degrees. This is why we create! We turn the pain and the hardships into worlds full of color, the ugliness into beauty, the reality into dream. You're not alone, and you're strong! Just remember to breathe

[LordVincent]

I'm having awful chest dysphoria right now and top surgery is so far away I'm a low income guy and I can't get it through state offered healthcare because the "medical professionals" are so outdated and toxic that they almost made me commit suicide last time I was in contact with them.

Usually my voice helps carry me through it because so much of my confidence relies on it, but it's going through another slump due to deepening development so I can't even sing right now.

[ISNEKO]

Wishing you the best. You're a tough mofo for going thru with being true to yourself.

If that makes any sense.

[LordVincent]

Thank you, hopefully it will calm down soon. I'm working as hard as I can to improve my income, hoping I can maybe get surgery next year. Maybe.

I don't like to just sulk, I prefer to distract myself or actively work towards a solution. But sometimes it just gets overwhelming ^^"

[feardeer]

I hope you can get there soon, man! I'm kinda the same way in that I don't like to dwell on these things, but have also been struggling with dysphoria more than usual lately. There's not really much you can do but what you're already doing, right? I don't know your story, but I'm sure it's been a lot of work to get where you are now. Remember to be proud of how far you've come and keep chugging along.

If you ever need a sympathetic ear to vent to, feel free to hit me up! There's lots of kind people who might understand what you're going through.

[minerrale]

I've been following your adventure with these issues through the little bit you let out on the author's notes of BloodRoot, just popping by to say you're incredibly strong and courageous for following this path!
Really hope you'll get better soon, mate.
And if it helps, you're not alone, we're all here to support you!

[Pinwheel]

So I'm starting to think about committing suicide again, the problem is that I always back out of it at the last moment. It's almost gotten to the point where I wonder why bother I'm just going to chicken out and I can't help but hate myself for being such a coward. Sorry.

[Jenny-Toons]

Because I worry that this might get drowned out in this thread (and that sometimes does happen), I definitely recommend that you also check out this thread here for more emotional support and for more geared on help from others who are have gone through some of your experiences or still have some experience with what you deal with

We all have a bad day, some of us chew through it, some of us laugh it off, and some of us bottle it up. Here you can let it fly out, this is about giving emotional support to those who need it and not professional advice (unless of course someone really does have a background in the career). You cannot deride or be a meanie in this thread, this is meant to be a positive and uplifting thread. TL;DR Let it out! Speak freely and hopefully someone can give you advice.

But as an overall response from myself, this isn't something you have to feel you have to go at alone. There are a good number of people here who really do care for each other's well-beings, and you are definitely included in that.

Is there anyone or people you interact with outside of the internet that you trust? Have you told them about what you're enduring and how it has affected you? And have you sought out any professional help?

I might not know you personally, but I do think that no one should feel that have to go at this alone and just bare with this. I think one of the best steps to getting stronger is telling someone you trust and then taking steps that help you to your recovery.

I think the Emotional Support Thread have more people in there that can provide more concrete help on where to go from here, and I honestly believe that there are people here definitely more qualified than I am that can go into more depths with you and help you through this.

I wish you all the luck, love. But I and everyone else are here for you.

[Campbell_Million]

Please don't do this.

[dawgofdawgness]

Pinwheel, I couldn’t possibly know what you’re going through right now. But I PROMISE you, if you stay strong, you’ll get better. This sad time you’re goung through will NOT last forever. Hang in there, I promise you things will get better. It’s important to reach out to others and tell them you need help. Yes it takes courage but it’s important. I didn’t tell my mom about my depression but I’m so glad I did.

In general, remember that not everything is your fault. It’s important to do a reality check once in a while and focus on positive things. I know that might sound generic, but things WILL get better. Hang in there.