What's a harsh reality no one accepts?

[megumibex]

Bullies (or I should say: people who are willing to participate in bullying) are way more common than people think. I sometimes hear people imply they think in each class of about 30 kids, there are one or two bullies. That's not true. From personal experience as a bullying victim and as a teacher, it's often more like 25-28 out of 30 will participate if given the chance. This is what makes it truly so hard to deal with. Dealing with the worst kid is hard enough, but it also does nothing to stop the rest.

Following from that, you were a bully. You might not have been the worst, but you probably were part of the problem. I say this knowing it's true of myself as well.

[MelancholicOtaku]

Brave New World by Aldous Huxley is our reality.

I can’t say this for the rest of the world but in the U.S we’re definitely living in a Soma filled ( social media) non-monogamy
(Hook up culture) society and I fear it’ll get worse.

[abigaillmartin]

You do make a good point about that one…
but the whole black pill thing is… DEAD wrong.

Eheheheheheh! Get it! Cause grave stones??
Get it??

[LunarScyphozoa]

No matter how you define “man” or “woman”, there’s is no world in which “women need separate professional leagues for everything from hockey to pepper eating to chess” is anything but just factually incorrect, and you cannot call yourself a feminist if you claim otherwise.
Also, more frames per second isn’t necessarily better animated.

[abigaillmartin]

You bring up two very excellent points. I needed to hear that too.

[abigaillmartin]

Here’s another one:
Magic is like hot dogs. It’s easier to swallow when you don’t know the secret.

[KevinReijnders]

In fact, a lot (if not all) women's leagues were formed because the men couldn't handle losing to women.

[abigaillmartin]

On that note. I’ll let Dimitri from Anastasia speak for this one.

[abigaillmartin]

Also another thing:
It’s easier to swallow historical fiction than learning actual history.
(Speaking from experience; I am guilty as charged)

[kyupol]

Um...

Blackpill = looks are everything. Excessive focus on the physical flesh. Your career, mating prospects, social life, etc. Revolve around looks. Therefore you must looksmaxx (gym, surgery, mewing, dress nice, etc) or ldar (lay down and rot), rope, go ER (reference to Elliot Rodger), etc.

Physical flesh that ends = core of Blackpill. (ITS OVER) (IT NEVER BEGAN = you dont really "belong" here) Therefore take it easy as much as possible don't stress on temporary shell. You are not your shell.

Standard blackpiller or blackpill denier focused on the finger. Not where the finger points to.

[LunarScyphozoa]

Blackpill = looks are everything. Excessive focus on the physical flesh. Your career, mating prospects, social life, etc. Revolve around looks. Therefore you must looksmaxx (gym, surgery, mewing, dress nice, etc) or ldar (lay down and rot), rope, go ER (reference to Elliot Rodger), etc.

I hope you guys will forgive me calling people ugly, but my dude. Some of the ugliest people I know are some of the happiest, with friends, partners, children, etc. who all love them. While society as a whole does place way too much of your worth as a person on how pretty people think you are, on an individual level most people couldn’t give less of a crap. In addition, it is mostly women who’s career prospects are stifled by how attractive they are perceived to be (not that men don’t also experience unfair discrimination from opportunities for reasons outside their control, but it is more often on the basis of race, sexuality, etc. than strictly beauty), though I do apologize if someone ever turned you down for a job due to that.
In regards to romance (I absolutely refuse to call it “mating”), I presume you’re speaking from the perspective of a straight man. And while I am not a woman, just about everyone I know is, and I can say with confidence that what they look for in a man (if that is what they’re even into) is just about never six packs on six packs on dehydration on muscle definition. Like, ever. A solid 75% of what makes a man attractive is personality (being respectful, kind, not referring to relationships and courting and love as ‘mating prospects’, good sense of humor, etc) but honestly? That 25% that is physical appearance is usually like, the exact opposite of the “Chad” archetype. Most straight women I know find a guy who looks like a dead chimney sweep grew up and crawled his way out of the grave far more appealing than what guys think women want.
If you have any more questions about understanding that the problem isn’t your appearance, it’s that you say stuff like this, I’d be happy to help!

[abigaillmartin]

You’re just making me more confused than I was before. Physical appearance has nothing to do with anything.

Let’s use Houdini as an example and before everyone yells at me because I won’t shut up about him hear me out.

Sure, he’s physically strong and he worked hard to look like that. But he not only he exercised his body he exercised his mind and was an avid reader and writer too. He was also a genuinely good man, he was good to his mother and adored his wife Bess. He was also a short guy about 5’5, he wasn’t very tall, but you were a fool if you ever messed with him.

I think you should learn a thing or two from him.

[abigaillmartin]

You said it better than I could. Well said dude.

[moontokkym]

This sub is for universal truths. It is in fact known that for the vast majority of people, looks aren't everything. In fact, for social bonds like long lasting friendships, loving relationships, found families, your attitude is way more important.

They apparently are for you because you only make friends with people who think that way and tell you you're not valuable unless you do all those time consuming expensive things to look good by your own definition of good. Even that is a lie, that there's an "objective good look for men", because I know people who genuinely adore dad bods, bear types, lanky video game nerds, hell I was my gf's type while being a twink, i only started the gym AFTER we got together because I want to be able to carry her. Your comfort in this belief that is also the one stopping you from having healthy friendships has got you stuck in an abusive relationship with an idea.

Have you not yet noticed that the people who do do all those things in that community still fail to have deep friendships or emotional intimacy because normal people are so severely put off by the cult lingo and dogmas? People generally give back what you put out, people being cold and aggressive to you is a reaction to "blackpiller's" very obvious jealousy, bitterness and anger. No one wants to be around that kind of energy, no matter what you look like.

Happy healthy confident people don't get sucked into the Blackpill because they can just look around and see it's not true and will gain nothing from a community of bitterness because they already have friends. You're being manipulated. You've fallen for their propaganda. I'm sorry you were/are in a place where you needed them to feel happy. No one deserves that.

[Lensing]

It´s more harsh when you think that everyone is a bully

[Stargazer31]

Yeah, looks really aren't everything. The average woman isn't even into that ridiculously shredded gym-bro look so idk where people get that idea. And stuff like black pill preys on insecurities and sadness but won't solve them

[Lensing]

Even that is a lie, that there's an "objective good look for men"

Good looking men in movies, comics etc. have a muscular upper
body

[KevinReijnders]

Yeah no, that's just stupid incel shit. The kind of philosophy that happens when terminaly online people don't leave their house and start to blame women for everything wrong in their lives, inverted their own insecurities on the rest of the world.

[conventurecomics]

Will there ever be a good He-Man live action movie made without muscle cars non Earth based only Eternia?

[Lensing]

After the Stinkor and Mossman spin off