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Am I the only one who notices that siblings don't tend to have a lot of role in fiction unless they are evil, (including the evil/bratty little monster), or the whole cast are heros of some sort and one is a sibling duo?

I mean, I love my siblings to death (have five of them) and so I usually have siblings of some kind in all my series, who the MCs are really close with.

We're going to see more of Alicia and Andrew's dynamic in "Sun with a paper crown" but honestly, even the mentions to him in the first book are all positive. Yes, everyone has a different dynamic with their siblings and we sometimes (or often) fight. But that's the thing, everyone has different dynamic, so why are most siblings:

  1. Hero-worshipping little siblings
  2. Bratty and mean little siblings or jerk older siblings
  3. Off somewhere being evil
  4. The other half of your personality

(And yes, I say this while having at least two siblings who are the other half of my personality (yes two halves) and one I like to joke about having had a semi-psychic link with.)

But seriously, I wanted to write Andrew and Alicia's dynamic as a realistic sibling dynamic, largely based on my personal experience. And older sibling who loves and kind of is 'mommish' of her younger sibling because of sort of having to raise him, and a younger sibling who both loves (and embarrasses) his older sibling, but isn't afraid to show that he loves her.

How do you write siblings in your stories?

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I'm an only child, so I base my writing off my observations of my friends/relatives and their siblings.

Siblings play heavily into my novel's sequel that I'm currently releasing. One of the 'antagonists' in the story is an older brother. But he's only jerky because he cares for his younger brother and wants the best life for him. His younger brother has made plenty of mistakes in the past, and being a financially successful family man, the elder feels like he can steer him in the right direction.

The other siblings spotlighted are his children, where there are four of them. They are sort of split in the middle, with the two eldest being closer in age with a wide gap from the youngest two. The elder two often take on the role as secondary parents, particularly the daughter since it's a historical fantasy after all set in the early 1900's.

My lead characters are sisters and I definatly think they fit into the "hero worship" camp.
The younger sister is very shy and introverted, looking up to the older sister as this strong paragon that she aspires to be like, though that dynamic is shifted lately.
As the older sibling to a large family (3 younger siblings) I feel like I have a tendency to write older siblings as protective but also teasing occasionally.

I think I tend to write older siblings as protectors too, especially in a (currently) unreleased suspense, mystery, maybe a little bit scary? Esque series I have, where she has to save her little siblings from the invasion. Other siblings are often secondary parents or almost baby sitters, but willingly, because they are close with they're siblings and they're parents are usually working.

In the case of "Damsel in the Red Dress" (spoilers): it's because their mother was not mentally sound and allowed to care for Alicia and her brother, so Alicia would often come home to find him alone, trying to care for himself, though he was only ten years old.

I wonder how common secondary parents siblings are irl. I've played this role since I was eleven, because when my family switched countries, I often watched my little siblings as the "woman of the house" while my mom was out buying groceries. It has a tendency to make you attached to your siblings, but feel older than you are, and that is definitely a part of Alicia's character

Agree. Not much from sibling unless what you've said, or leaning toward cons (which is... kinda unhealthy).

Five is many! I only have one and it's already too much for me. Bet you guys are lively!

I do love to see more sibling stories (or just brotherly/sisterly relationship). Not everything has to be romance anyway :upside_down:

Bratty little siblings and jerk older siblings are probably because during childhood (and maybe continued to adulthood) this is what we feel.

One aspect I want to touch in sibling relationship is some inferiority or superiority complex as one of the effect of one parent "favoring" one over another, among other. I am trying to have a range of interactions, from a relationship that is supportive, in-between, to antagonistic. Lastly there are also featured siblings with unclear or no blood bond.

Now that you mention it, it IS weird how seldom siblings are utilized in fiction...my guess is because:
1. No shipping potential
2. It means not everyone in the story gets a "unique" origin; which takes a little bit of the fun out of making a new character. ^^;

I'm also guilty of ignoring siblings a lot of the time...many of my MC's do have them, but they're usually supporting characters or background characters. The only time I've given a pair of siblings a starring role in recent years was in LADYBIRD:

And even then, Maeve (older) and Nell have been estranged for years, and have to spend time getting reacquainted. ^^; As far as the plot is concerned, they might as well not be related...it's only really relevant in character interactions, where I can show that they share certain tastes and habits, and that they are especially driven to protect each other, willing to rush into deadly situations without hesitation. I guess that's the fun part about writing close siblings; being able to add little details to show they share a special bond. ^^

Well, I think at least in medieval-style fantasy stories, the evil sibling trope is something that comes out of the history of upper-class families in many societies, where brothers in particular were often at each others' throats for inheritance rights. That dynamic gets deliberately injected into foundational books of the genre and then trickles down into books influenced by those classics.

I think dynamics like that are really interesting if the siblings also love each other. Loving each other and being consciously in competition with one another is an interesting relationship to mine. In the novel I'm posting now, my MC had two cousins who are really his siblings in all but name, and they love each other but have relationships that grow increasingly strained because their goals are at odds.

But I'm also in the middle of writing a novel about a royal succession where the main character is an adviser to one of a set of brothers all vying for the throne. They are constantly scheming, plotting, and backstabbing, and it's fun as hell tbh.

Irl, I have two siblings I'm very close to, and I would never frame one for embezzlement in order to secure my own inheritance (only partially because the inheritance I would be backstabbing them over is primarily a storage building full of broken furniture my mom erroneously insists are priceless antiques).

My story consists of 3 brothers! 2 brothers as twins and 1 younger brother.

While having a story where one of the siblings turned out to be evil is a good story plot, I portrayed a more realistic dynamic between them. They fight and bicker all the time, but they also help each other when needed. They all have different personalities and ways of coping with their strict parents.
Maybe I picked up from my experience regarding their siblings' dynamic (since I have 2 siblings myself).

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I think they're underutilized in fiction because your characters are meant to be by themselves. When learning about the Heroic Journey, two of the most common pieces of fiction references is Harry Potter and Star Wars. Luke and Harry both start out their stories as orphaned only children who are forced away from their aunt and uncle who raised them. They are both later "rewarded" with families at the end of their stories. You see the same trope repeated a lot in stories - bad home life which forces them to leave home and then are rewarded with a shiny new family at the end of the series.

But aside from trying to pair your characters off and making one big "family" at the end, there really is no need to add siblings. Siblings in American TV are written as plot devices for male characters and are used to humanize female characters. For every other function that a family member could do, that's where another character in your main cast steps in.

In my opinion, the best way to write good characters is to let them exist. In my main series, my MC discovers she has a twin brother, a Luke and Leia type situation. Aside from them both being sensitive to abandonment, their mutual love of technology, and a shared mysterious family history - they're two characters living in the same world.

Hm, while there are a few Niji Chikara characters with siblings, most of them end up being minor characters who don't really have much impact on the plot. It's just not the type of story that really cares much about sibling dynamics, I guess.

I've written all sorts of sibling dynamics in other stories though. Siblings who care deeply for each other, sibling rivalries, long lost siblings... like any other relationship between characters, it can come in all sorts of flavors, and can be lots of fun to explore. Agree with what's been said above though that sometimes it just doesn't really add anything to the story, so sometimes it's just better to let siblings remain as minor characters and/or let everyone be an only child.

Despite growing up with 2 brothers, I have never felt the need to give my characters siblings. Generally I think it's because I don't really have a use for them in the story, as cruel as that may sound. The one time I had a sibling dynamic of any kind, was when I was working on a story about a royal/imperial family. Which then off course involved a battle for the throne, so not really a wholesome healthy sibling relationship haha.

I do think that the way me and my brothers interact with eachother has an effect on how I write my character interactions though. I think, for example, how Kyara and Zack jokingly tease each other. The dynamic between Kyara and her Scrapper crew (shown in the short story) is also an example of my own sibling dynamic bleeding into the dialogue.

Try some Enid Blyton books. She always had great sibling dynamics in most of her books.

I feel like a lot of the reason a lack of siblings exists in writing is for the same reason a lot of media “kills” off parents or just doesn't even introduce them if the characters do have them. They get in the way of the story unless they play a specific role like you mentioned or the writer just doesn’t have a use for them. Which is strange because both siblings and parental figures are a presence almost everyone has, even if they’re not biological, so I do think this is a pretty interesting recognition.

I'll admit I'm also very guilty of "killing off the parents" mainly because they otherwise would get in the way of me telling an adventure story feature young adults haha. I do try to make the death/absense of these parent revelant to the characters and their personality. But I do fall into that trope :sweat_smile:

I did ironically feel the need to add a parental structure though in the form of Nan's orphanage.

My main characters Bobbie and David are brothers. I try to write them as realistically as possible, considering I have 2 siblings myself :laughing:

David played a huge role in raising Bobbie though, so their dynamic is a mix of siblings and parental. It's interesting to write for sure.

For anyone who wants to check out my comic about these brothers :slight_smile:

https://m.tapas.io/series/signs-point-to-bobbie/info

I grew up with a lot of siblings. I think that is why a lot of my characters have at least one sibling. As well as dynamics like, sister-in-law and adopted sibling. Even in the case with Ken, an only child, there is sort of a brother dynamic with his foster cousin.

I guess the weird thing is that I have little desire to make a character with a lot of siblings, similar to my own family. Tho in an earlier version of Frostpeak West, Ace had like 4 or 5 half-brothers but I ended up changing his backstory. I guess it's easier to keep track of 1 sister. In earlier concepts, Ken was Ace's younger brother.

I honestly have very few stories where there isn't at least one relevant character with a sibling that has at least a little bit of bearing on the plot. I guess it's just a difference between writers, as everyone's experiences affect how they write and imagine worlds. My siblings are my best friends, so I guess it comes through with how I write family dynamics. Even if parents are conveniently absent for the sake of the plot, there is usually at least one sibling. My record is currently six siblings (five brothers and a sister)

Siblings can have unique back stories to each other though. Even when they are raised together, they'll have different experiences in school, struggles, xyz.

I realize that; that's why I put "unique" in quotations. ^^;

The difference is that, 9 times out of 10, a sibling will have some awareness of what's going on in their fellow siblings' lives. They may not know that they were suicidal in high school, for instance, but they'll be able to see their lonely daily activities and their negative attitude while at home.
If anything, if they DON'T notice, it would likely become a point of contention in the story, like a "you call yourself my brother, but you were never there when I needed you; you didn't even care!" sort of thing.

The point is, besides not getting to do things like inventing a brand-new country or family history or fantasy race or social dynamic along with the introduction of such a character, there won't be as many "new" revelations involved in divulging their backstory: there's always going to be that large probability that their sibling is already familiar with what you're about to reveal, and a necessity to write with that familiarity in mind.

Ahh, sorry, guess I just misunderstood the quotations. I would agree there's a good chance of siblings having some inclination what you're going through in a lot of instances, though that likelihood decreases the older the siblings are. (As in my story, "Damsel in the Red Dress" where they are both adults, and her little brother, though they are close emotionally, lives in Mexico, so all sorts of things go down in her neck of the woods in the first book without him even knowing.)

I personally feel like siblings is a dynamic so specific that no other person could possibly fill it (unless they were raised with you, making them your sibling imao):

"There’s nothing there but a Christmas card from Andrew and Jinho, ostentatiously addressed to “Her Majesty, The Queen of Baltimore.”"

*

“Jinho told me to say hello to the Queen for him. Gosh! It’ll be so awesome to see you again. You have no idea how much I’ve missed you since the move. He always says I talk about you like you’re some long-deceased relative and not just a phone call away. But calls are just different. We’ll probably be able to get lunch somewhere, the four of us, at least once before we leave. You, me, Jinho, and Kat. I just realized we haven't even introduced them, yet -"

*
“I’ll text you when we’re back in the country so we can arrange to get lunch - but hopefully sooner if we can. Our schedule has been hectic. P.S. I saw the news report for your exhibit online. I’m totally telling everyone that my older sister is a celebrity! (Jinho says we have to fix your house so we can start name-dropping XD.)”

*

It's just different fam

12 days later

My story has two important characters who are siblings and their dynamic is an important part of the story.

My story has a protagonist, who saves his sibling from fae hands :slight_smile: They are both positive characters (even if overall the novel has a very dark mood).

that's what i want to see more of! great siblings!

Their dynamic is fairly strained as one looks up to the other and wants to be more like him and the others needs her in his life but can't admit it due to the sense of responsibility instilled into him that comes with self-sufficiency at all times.

As an older sibling I feel like light duties are common (from 13 I was "in charge" of my younger brother while my parents were out, which usually meant "don't fight with him and make sure he doesn't leave on his own") but proper psychological "parentification" is a lot rarer as it's a form of abuse to force an older sibling to take on the same duties as a co-parent from a young age. I'm talking being responsible for a much younger siblings food, health, cleanliness, etc regularly to the point the sibling is dependent on you rather than the actual parents.

Like I'm an older sibling but I still had a childhood and space to explore who I am as an independent being from my parents and my brother rather than needing to put my brother first because I'm his carer, and I'm not particularly more responsable than him at heart (I'm an anxious bean who's a workaholic though so sometimes it looks like it). He also often comes off as the more responsable one because he presents as this very serious socially awkward tech dude meanwhile I'm the coloured-hair, delirious from overwork artsy one. More than once at gatherings with extended family people have assumed he's older than me.

Yes, light duties are entirely normal and common. But that wasn't really the case in my childhood, as when my mother was deported, I had to care for my younger sister (specifically haircare) because she was too small to do so herself, and my father has a hand injury that makes it tend to lock up. And before that my mother and I had moved without my father and older brother so I spent a very large amount of time caring for the household mostly alone while my mother went out to deal with other work.

I'm so sorry you went through that 🫂 deportation as a whole is a cruel industry, I hope you've been able to reunite and are safe.

I can totally see why in cases like that the older sibling steps up into a parent role despite it not being fair on them, and the parents letting it happen despite probably not wanting to have to put the kids through that.

19 days later

With my main siblings in "Damsel in the Red Dress" I really wanted to express the struggle of an older sibling in really trying life situations trying to protect their younger siblings from the reality of their lives. My siblings and I have gone through pretty trying circumstances, on memorable night being sleeping in an abandoned building. These emotions of terror, and sadness while trying your best to comfort your younger siblings are the sort of feelings I imagine Alicia having for Andrew as she tried to shelter him from the reality of their parent's divorce as much as she could

17 days later

Spot-light on siblings from large families:

Shannon Carmichael from Damsel in the Red Dress has several siblings, coming from a very large American-Islamic family. Though they're only mentioned in passing, he's the only boy and the only one of his siblings to have gotten a degree

My comic has sibling pairs, with one of them being a pretty big spoiler, and the other being Hugo and his sister. The spoiler siblings are pretty dysfunctional, but Hugo and his sister are pretty fine with eachother even if they’re not exactly best friends.

My siblings in both "Hushabye Prince" and "Damsel in the Red Dress" are pretty close, but things are very different for both sets. Both Alicia x Andrews and Jinwoo x Jimin love each other to death, but one set is complicated by a divorce that meant growing up separately and the other by...spoilers lol

15 days later

An interesting factor of Alicia's (Damsel in the Red Dress) character that I've noted brought out by Jinho is the subtly of the different ways she views things. Kattar grew up with a very loving mom who spoiled him in a lot of ways, and Alicia has commented before that she thinks she's jealous.

But after their parents divorced, Alicia's little brother went to live with their dad and their father's sister, who basically treated him like her own child, babied him, and loved him like a mother, but Alicia never once said she was jealous of anything her little brother received even though she should have had the same.

While she envies other people, she'd give her left arm for her little brother, and so I didn't even realize when I wrote her that he's the person she never comments on being jealous of in any way, though he received a lot she didn't.

This is one of those things about a sibling connection that is very real, and while it doesn't have to be literal siblings, I think really only can be felt in people who have struggled to survive together. While I don't know anyone who is as completely unselfish in this respect as Alicia, this 'I'd sacrifice everything for their sake' mentality that often is written for mothers, is also present in siblings who have gone through a lot together.

1 month later

The leads in my new story "Damsel in the Red Dress," ARE the pair of siblings, but their relationship is entirely the flip of Alicia and Andrew's. I find it interesting to explore the dynamic of siblings who can be 100% furious with each other often, but can always get over that because in the end they're there for each other.

17 days later

I know he’s not interested in talking, but turning the radio on would still feel like telling him to shut up.

I could think of a thousand things to say if left to my own devices - but my body has felt like one big system error for the last five years.

I have a thousand things I want to say and I don’t feel like saying any of them, staring at the back of his curly head as he studies his scrawny arm resting on the windowsill, with something like stubborn pride that unsettles me.

“How do you calculate the length of the hypotenuse?” I blurt brusquely, like it’s a dare.

“I don’t need you to quiz me, Lady Licorice,” He doesn’t turn his gaze from his arm, rolling down his sleeve until it hides his bloodless hands.

“Excuse me for trying to keep you out of summer school,” I sniff with more than genuine vehemence. “Remind me who got a ‘D’ on their last test?”

“I didn’t study for that one. I studied for this one,” he says in an exasperated monotone, crossing his arms over his chest - leaning forward against the seat belt like he’s a ragdoll just barely being kept upright.


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Both Dominic and Essence have siblings in "A Dozen Morning Glories" and they are extremely essential to the book.

Dominic's sisters' emotions lead him to better understand and sympathize with the feelings of the female lead, while the difference in the way she is treated versus how her sister is treated is a huge part of what wakes Essence up to the reality that the way she lives is not acceptable.

While these things could technically be expressed with female friends, the impact is different when it hits, literally closer to home. Both watching someone be mistreated your entire life and watching someone be treated better than you for your entire life will have a different impact than just seeing bits and pieces of these realities occasionally.