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Feb 2018

If for some reason someone offered you a chance to move somewhere no one knows you under a new name and with no possibility to contact anyone you know before ( but they would know you’re safe and magiacally not worry about it ), would you?

I know most of you will probably say wtf no, but this was ( and I guess is ) one of my biggest wishes since I was like in middle school. Some of it is due to mental health stuffs but a lot of it is just because I’m so gosh darn embarassing at all times. Anyway, I thought it would be interesting to see if other people have had similiar thoughts.

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Just kidding, I actually wouldn't.
I've made it this far... I've worked so hard to develop my art style and I plan on seeing how it'll turn out in a few years. And I LOVE MY MOM A LOT! :triumph:

This is such an interesting idea and I can definitely see the appeal.
But at the same time, I struggle so much to make connections with new people, I can't afford to lose the connections I have. Because I know from experience that if I'm put in that situation, I have very little ability to make new ones.

I think many of us could go for "NO... but can I have a magic button to undo just one or two terrible mistakes that I'm ashamed about?"

If I am in those days that I hate the world I would just say yes lol...

I mean I love family and friends but sometimes I feel that if I am in an environment where nobody knows me and I don't have anyone to disapoint then I would be able to just do whatever I want without feeling guilty or anxious.

Starting over from scratch seems fresh and exciting to me but I'd have to say "No" ^^; I love the people i'm with at the moment it'd be too sad to leave them :confused:

At the present moment, I would. I also know it's not the best way to deal with things, but what the heck.
I'll keep it brief because I hate to be a sad sack, but I wanted to say that yes, similar thoughts.

I also wish you strength. It's one day at a time. It's though, as you know.
But I wish you strength to go on.

I've actually ''done'' so before, completely fell off the face of the internet for half a year quiiiite a long time ago. Didn't really suffer much of anything from it since the friends I had at the time were more acquaintances and didn't really talk to on a personal level so to say. I ended up finding one of those acquaintances by complete coincidence once I slowly made my way back online funnily enough.

Now...? I'm relatively happy with my lot in life so to say. Making friends is hard for me since I'm not super social and I love all my current friends soo. probably not.

Are we talking like a few months, or forever? I would love to move somewhere new, but to NEVER contact anyone I know? I mean, I’m not really talkative with people I DO know, but I don’t to want to just leave like that. So, probably not.

Well, I've kind of done it. I moved pretty far away from home. But I wasn't trying to reset, just do something new. I'm about to do it again. If you're doing it for good reasons, like new challenges and adventure, then it can be very good.

if you asked me this just as i leaving secondary school, i would have screamed yes

but now i find in developing contacts that are getting me work i like in places i like :u im stuck here now

I remember reading about this in a book on enneagram once; that this was not an uncommon feeling among Type Five folks -- even those who wouldn't take that deal for one reason or another can understand the appeal. I'm definitely there -- I wouldn't do it in the end, but that desire resonates with me.

The fear of obligation is so strong in folks that fall into the five type that sometimes, even if you're not in a bad place, even if you have friends and family who love you and you've built something good for yourself, the idea of leaving and starting completely over in a place where no one expects anything of you and you have no attachments to worry about can be a weirdly attractive one.

I'm sorry you feel that way.

I can say that at times, I definitely would do this...I feel quite a bit like a failure quite often....

I used to wish for that as well when I was a kid, and then...

I moved to nothern sweden all by myself, and I didn't know anyone there.
I didn't feel alone somehow??
But it was refreshing, however I realised that I couldn't change who I was as a person immediately as that what's caused my anxiety to get worse.

But nah, I don't want to do that, I love my family too much even tho I find them annoying at times.

Edit: I just wanted to get away from my own life, my own problems.
(And I still do) But it doesn't change when moving somewhere else tho :confused:
I wanted to be famous (still do) and have people worship me without knowing I used to be xD

I mean I love me family as well, but my self-hatred massively overweights my love for anything (even elephants).

I kind of had something like that happen to me when I was 17. Not to that etreme but close to it. I moved one state over started living with a different family, lost all contact with anyone I knew for about 3 years and started completely fresh.

I was kicked out of my original home by my step mom who is mentally unstable putting it mildly. I lived from the age of 9 until I was 17 with her constantly telling me I was worthless and not going to make anything of myself and constantly comparing me to her 30 year old son who was "perfect" I have major depression, Bipolar disorder and am only recently getting through a severe inferiority complex. But when she got rid of me I was devistated at first but the complete removal of myself from the town I was living in and the people I knew helped me decide who I wanted to be as an individual and it was the best thing to ever happen to me. I am 23 going on 24 next month and I never thought I would be making comics online with a future goal of doing it as a living.

In my case the answer with the knowledge I have now was I wish it had happened sooner. But right now, no I love where I am and the people I know. I can say though that all the struggle I went through was worth it because it really helped me evaluate my life and see who I can and can't trust and helped me look inwards on myself and see where my worth really is. I study philosophy and psycology now and it really helps give me a reality check and helps me focus on what I should do next.

If you have low self esteem shoot me a message and I can direct you to some really helpful youtube videos and we can also talk. I love meeting new people as it is ^.^