I'm bisexual but at the moment lean more into my "sapphic spectrum"
Can a sexual trauma affect your sexuality and how does it shows in the relationships?
Can you become sexual contat-addicted after some sort of abuse you went through?
First of all, trauma does not change your sexuality like whether you are bi, pan, homo, hetero, or ace, it only changes how you act with people intimately. Some feel (like I did during/right after my time of sexual abuse) like they need sexual stimulation to somehow feel valid, like otherwise you're not enough because your ability to have sex seems the only good thing in a relationship and you start to form your identity on your sexual life. Others are downright repulsed by even thinking of sex and don't want to be touched at all. Sexual abuse does very weird things to the body image you have of yourself, not to forget the guilt that people can so easily impliment into your brain. It's a lot of struggling because it makes it harder to accept having sexual desires (that you just happen to have if you are not ace) but also have other admirable qualities and that it's not more nor less than a part of you.
How a trauma manifests is highly individual and doesn't have anything to do with being into girls, guys, or anyone else.
When I look back, I had many hints that I was also into women WAY before my sexual abuse started, the moment that I realised that these were signs of being bisexual just came later. So no, trauma does not dictate whether you're into this or that gender.
Which part do you like the most of being touched by a girl?
I generally enjoy sex with girls a bit more because it's a familiar body that still reacts differently, and I find that very exciting. I'm not much of a fan of penetrative sex but that doesn't mean I would never date someone with a dick because sex with someone you love is always worth experimenting to find what suits both of you, no matter the genitals. Other girls genuinely enjoy penetrative sex "despite" being 100% lesbian, so strap-ons are also relatively common in lesbian culture. And I have the feeling like you take much more time with each other because you know that getting a girl off is slightly different to a dude, and you want your partner to feel good, too.
Just think about what touches arouse you tbh? Literally the only difference is that a girl is touching you, not a guy, the physical stimulus is still the same.
P.S. Eating out girls is fun :3
What are the most important things to know about lesbian romance? How does it work?
About romancing someone ... boi, this depends so much on your personality, really.
I'm terribly shy and don't know when people flirt with me, and I find it even more difficult with girls because, well, a lot is socially perceived as "just being friends" - it's exactly the opposite from the "no homo" culture men face in friendships. I find it difficult to see whether a girls is just being friendly or actually flirting with me. It also doesn't really help that people never would pin me down as a sapphic girl in first place.
One of my fellow students is a lesbian who is generally very active in sports and very pragmatic in nature, sometimes even blunt and she doesn't have an issue with chatting up girls (atm she's in a happy relationship for over 2 years, but here it's about the character differences that I wanted to point out.)
What do you find "attractive" in another girl? How do you see your female partner in a romantic relationship?
But yeah, with me being horribly oblivious when it comes to flirting (from all genders tbh, but especially girls), I kinda dream of a slightly butch femme* to sweep me off my feet, so to speak. If you can see that she knows what she wants and what she wants is me? I'm not gonna stop her. Also flirty banter is how you can get me, together with a playful rivalry. I personally think I need someone who challanges me a little, so that's what I'm looking for in a potential partner.
I'd also be way more up for formal dates (these romantic candle-light dinners in a fancy restaurant for example) when it's with a woman than with a man, and the normal PDA stuff (holding hands, pecks on the cheek, wearing the other's jacket because I'm cold) feels easier to imagine, it's really funny. Maybe to differenciate between having a girlfriend vs. just being friends.
*it's so difficult to describe my type in women..? I mean, like taking more masculine-coded outfits but wearing them in a way that they look feminine like a form-fitting tux or pixie-cuts.
And yes, I definitely love boobs but more if they are wrapped up nicely and not presented to me in a deep neckline. It's more like, you know how boobs work and then get eager to eventually get naked together and play with them, or at least you can imagine that. (Not to say that boob windows aren't a nice invention though) Oh and sixpacks. That's hot on everyone.
TL;DR: there are so many setups you can have romance-vise where you can copy most of the m/f dynamics, just keep in mind that both of them are women. Whether it's friends with benefits turned to girlfriends, childhood crushes, blind dates, went home together after a party, friends turned to lovers, roommates turned to lovers, online aquaintances turned to lovers ... there is nothing that never happened.
Remember that lesbians/sapphic women are very diverse in their personalities, backgrounds, preferences, values, and self-expression.
There are sapphic women who sleep around like Casanova himself, there are sapphic women who found the love of her life with her first girlfriend, some are shy, some are bold, some want to serve in the military and others are happy to be housewives!
Really, lesbians come in all shapes and sizes just as any other women.
Also kudos to you for trying yourself on f/f as a straight woman, that's very rare!