College problems

[Shinchan]

Hello everyone,
first of all this post is not related to novel or comic. I have problem which I want to share with you all.
So I am a college student. I am not the best student but also not the worst either. I admitted in this college because I was a student in the high school. Since I know most of the teacher in the school I thought it will be a great idea to read in the same college. who knew it would be my worst nightmare.
In the first semestar exam I took the 3rd place in my section. but I couldn't be happy because of Mr.X. He kept taunting me saying that he is the one who gave me the 3rd place. I barely passed in his subsect but that doesn't give him the right to tell me that. I did good in other subject and that's way I got the 3rd place. I mean whenever I saw him he kept saying that.
In the secend semestar I failed in his subject. Actually he made me fail. My friend compared her paper with mine and there are some answer which were the same and he didn't gave me numbers.
when my mother complained about him to the principle he became a whole another level worse.
The whole class is now against me. It didn't matter to me that much untill I heard that when I am not the class the whole class gossip about me.
Now let me tell you about this teacher of mine. First of all he comes 15 min late in class. when there is only 30 min in per class. Then he always goes to off topic like boyfriends or dating. The way he looks at girls is clearly not right.
I clearly don't know why other student and their parents doesn't complain about him. I think they like to lower their head infront other people but my mother is not like that so complained about him.
Yesterday he asked the whole class "Do I come late in class?"
Students (Beside me and my friends) "No sir Never."
"Do I not teach in class?"
Students "NO sir you make the chapter more easier"

Did you guys ever face this kind of situation? Can you tell how I face that teacher?
Trust me I am not telling you all for sympathy I just way to get out from this mess.

[SilentHamster102]

Yeah, I faced that kind situations many times, in the school and university.
In the school that was not so serious, because I didn't cared about results. In the school my physics, math (he openly stated that I'm an idiot and such, and my answer was "f*ck you" sometimes ) and art teachers hated me, and I didn't cared at all.
"Labour" teacher hated me too, but that wasn't personal, he hated everyone, and everyone hated him too (and later we start to bully him, and he started to beat us I have so many awesome stories about him ).

But in university that was real problem and my ass was kicked out after first exams, heh (but I don't feel sorry about that). I consider myself an adult person at that time and didn't tolerate insults I encountered from teachers almost every day and said everything what was on my mind about that situation. I was a proud hothead at that time, yeah.
I even encountered situation how one teacher haunted the student and he stopped going to the university for month.

I don't know how to deal with teachers like that. My methods was a complete disrespect to them and of course my moral state was great, but overall results were...meh as I said before. I hope somebody else will give you a good advice on that

[unknown_user]

I haven't been in such a situation, so pay attention that I'm able to discuss this topic only from theoretical reasoning, which have not been confirmed by practice...

What comes into my mind, is the following three things:
1. Try to find other students, which are unhappy with the behavior of this teacher, too. I suppose that you will look more earnestly, if you'll go to principal together with them, and they'll confirm your words.
2. Try to find undeniable proofs of bad behavior of this teacher, which you could show to the principal. For example, record some video from smartphone's camera, which will show clearly that he is late or he is saying disrespectful things to you or other students on his lesson, etc. I hope, it is allowed in your college to record a videos of lessons?
3. Try to find another college.

P.S. I also wonder, why do other students protect this teacher? Is it just a cowardice, or they like him for some reason? If the second option will turned up to be true, it will be hard to fight with him...
P.P.S. Also try to sort out, isn't it allowed in your college to take an examination by another teacher, if you have personal animosity with the current one? It may be a solution, too.

[SleepingPoppy]

Definitely if you can get proof of any of the behavior/unfair treatment you should. Keep things like the comparison grades between you and your friend where you're clearly not being treated the same.

Do your best to be respectful in class regardless. Though I would say stop going if it becomes untenable. You don't deserve to be mistreated.

I suggest finding an ally with a teacher you have a good relationship with, and discussing things with them. And if not some kind of campus counselor or authority. You should be able to find someone that can either advocate for you with this class, give you an alternative, and/or get him investigated. Abuse of power is not okay, bullying your student is not okay.

Also, if possible go yourself or with peers, not your mom. It looks better when you advocate of yourself. However if you are someone who has trouble with that, mom can still be a back up.

Best of luck, and I hope your situation improves.

[Shinchan]

Thank you for replying
Well 50% of the students in my class reads in his private coaching. They think that he will give them numbers. but I don't why they are forgetting the fact that that teacher can't gve them number in our final exam

[Shinchan]

Thank you for replying
I know all the other teacher is going to support me. Because most of the teacher hates him than I do but the main problem is I don't have any proof I don't why other students are supporting him

[SleepingPoppy]

I don't know what the rules are where you're going to school, but even without proof it should be possible for some degree of an authority looking in with him. Explain what's happening in detail to a teacher and see if they can advice you on who to talk to other than the principle.

Odds are if he's mistreating you, he's mistreating others somewhere. The first step is lodging a complaint. Frankly, even if you can't stop him now, making sure your complaint is on record still sets up a precedence that might help a future student that is similarly harassed.

Also see if there's a class you can take instead of his.

[Shinchan]

Well he is only teaher in his subject. and I have to choose his subject it is compolsary

[SleepingPoppy]

There might be a transferable course from a nearby college. I don't know, since I'm not familiar with your area or school. Just saying there are sometimes options.

I used to take summer classes at my city college, and transfer them to the college I was attending during the year. That might not be an option for you, my point is just that sometimes there are alternatives. If you have none, you're just going to have to find a way through his class. Or chose another college? Unless you get some help from authority in the school.

[Shinchan]

Thank you for telling me your story.
but I can't disrepect him because I kind of have a good girl image in my college and if I didrespect him infront of everyone it might cause me more problem

[Jenny-Toons]

As @tired_programmer and @SleepingPoppy mentioned, gather up evidence and figure out if he's done this to other students as well. It's great that your mother and other instructos are on your side, and it's less of a "he said, I said" situation.

I have had teachers who tried to pull this on me and several students throughout grade school and high school, and often times, it worked in our favor when we as students showed the overwhelming evidence. I'm glad to say I haven't encountered that in college currently, but I know it still happens in higher levels.

Exams, interactions, anything inappropriate he's said -- that needs to be documented as evidence and addressed.

And if some of the other targeted students aren't comfortable going to an authority, you can find a way to get their voices out there without them feeling exposed. Using something like an "anonymous caller" type of unit.

But if you do have to keep going to his classes (as in it's mandatory, and there's no way to re-take that class over the summer), then keep your interactions (from your end) towards him neutral at best. He certainly doesn't deserve your respect and you are well within your right to be anger, but I have seen instructors try and use their students' justified anger in an attempt to recreate "they said, I said" situations.

Let his behavior show even worse in comparison to how you respond civil but firm to him. It can gradually show outsiders that something's wrong with him more than you.

[Shinchan]

Thank you for replying
and I really hope nobody enounter this kind of situation its the worse thing. also I will try to control my anger towards him

[zammap]

Next time he is late, use your phone and show a clock and the room full of students. Record this as many days as you can. Then for the rest of the class leave your phone recording in your bag to record the audio that he is just talking about non class stuff the whole time. When you have enough videos and audio just email a head with a dummy email.

[Shinchan]

Thank you for replying
And I will try to follow your advise wish me luck