Does anyone live with their parents past 18?

[GamerPrincessXI]

I've lived with mine, all my life. Now, that I'm older, I feel as though they want me to leave. Why, I'm been a good student, never had a wild party or did drugs. Found a job closer to home. Always attended church with you. I just don't really understand why parents, who love their children would force them to move out.

Note: My fiancee is pushing me to move out not my parents. Parents want money for rent, though.

[snailienz]

I live with my family and wish I didnt have to. No idea about the why they'd want you to leave other than wanting you to succeed in life I guess? Being on your own is seen as "making it." or whatever.

[GamerPrincessXI]

I should have rephrased this. My fiancee wants me to move out and I actually really love living with my parents. Plus they're getting older.

[yansusu]

I do. Moved out for a while during my early years in university but then returned since it was just more practical that way. I don't see any reason why a person shouldn't live with their parents either. I mean not that long ago it was still pretty normal to have several generations to live in one house, wasn't it?

[Cavechan]

From my personal experience, I moved out of my parents' house as soon as I was able to (went off to college and when I came home I moved in with my then-boyfriend, now-husband). I could not stand living with my parents and even when I go over there for dinner/laundry for just a few hours, I still get annoyed by them and am glad I moved out when I did. All they do is watch the same TV shows or sports over and over and the BICKERING. Not to mention that they like to think that they're poor and trying to save money on stupid things (my Dad apparently doesn't like to leave the lights on so it's always very dark) yet spend it frivolously on other things (going out to eat ALL THE TIME and not to cheap places).

For some people living with their parents can work out, I guess. I have several friends my age that still live with their parents and never moved out or moved out briefly. There are definitely benefits to it, such as not having to pay rent which is ridiculously high right now. But there are also cons of having much less privacy.

My husband and I have briefly considered moving in with his mom mainly for money/house reasons. The only reason we can't is because his uncle is currently living there and he's annoying and the house would be way too cramped at that point. It would have been beneficial though since we could have used the money we're currently spending on rent to help fix up her house. Well, his mom is kind of annoying too, but not in the same way my parents are.

So, yeah, I'm just rambling about my personal experience, but the point is it works in some situations for some people and doesn't work in other situations.

Also, it is your parents house and you need to respect that. Their house, their rules. And if they want to kick you out, then they have the right to do that, unless if you have a lease signed with them and are paying rent to them. I obviously don't know their reasoning, but I'm sure they'd like more privacy and more of their own space.

[Kelheor]

If you have a fiancee, maybe they want you to live with her? And they definitely want you to go and live your life and just rely on yourself.
I basically didn't live with my mom after 17 y.o., and I am really happy, because it's exhausting to live with parents, cook the food how they like it, doing the chores how they need it, etc. It's so much less freedom.
Now my little brother is 14 y.o. and even though he is a very momma's boy, she wants him to live by himself as soon as possible. Also because maybe she just wants more privacy to herself, and maybe so she finally won't think about cooking and feeding those lazy children anymore, and telling them to finally clean their room

[silverraven0]

Me. I can't move out cause I wasn't allowed. v_v

[JRHoch]

I moved out at twenty and my parents felt abandoned.

[JRHoch]

Just got a text from your Mom; she wants you to get the f*ck out!

[mariusthered]

maybe they want you to feel what the world is like without them a little. Even if you just move close by so you can keep a check on them it will make a difference. It's hard to give advice on a situation you know nothing about, and really this is for you and them not the world ( you don't need us load of nosy buggers prying)
Their is a whole host of reasons why your parents may want this, perhaps they want to hold them wild parties you missed out on!
All I can say is don't fall out with them over this, no matter what they are irreplaceable.

[Jenny-Toons]

Hmm, it's kinda on and off for my case. After 18, I went to college and moved into the dorms. Though, during winter and summer breaks, I stay with my maternal mom while I do summer classes or summer internships.

After college, we've discussed that I'd live at home until I was able to find a place of my own. It's kinda the nature of how my family does these things. You stay at home until you get back on your feet, and you come back often to see family.

Though, then again, that also depended on the relationship we have. I have a good relationship with my family. We're able to be real with each other, tell each other things we might not tell others, and just feel comfortable in each other's presences. So me kinda living at home for a bit isn't that bad.

[SleepingPoppy]

Yep. I left for college and returned for breaks, then moved back in at home. I have loans to pay back from school, so financially it just makes more sense to live at home. It's not uncommon. But I also genuinely like being here. I don't want to get an apartment until I am financially stable.

@GamerPrincessXI I assume your fiancé doesn't so much care that you live with your parents, but actually just wants to live together? That's pretty normal for someone you're planning to marry. Did you want to live together in your parents home, or get a place together/move in with fiancé, when married?

[Humbug]

In my country, kids only move out when they finally get married, so it's normal for people past 18 to still live with their parents. I don't have a set time to move in with my boyfriend, and really I would just be moving into his mother's house. We have lots of friends who are single and in their 30s still living with their parents.

[ben]

Culturally, most people in my family don’t move out til they marry so it’s extremely normal for 20-something year olds to still be living with their parents. Heck, even after having kids it’s still normal cus a lot of people like having family around when they have small children. I was raised with my mom, grandma, aunts, and uncles around for a long time.

When I was younger however I was a bad kid and by this point it was just me and my mom. I left at 16 and my sister moved back in with my mom and my mom encouraged her to stay until she finished school and got a house. So she stayed until her mid-twenties.

[Kura]

In my culture, kids really only move out if they are disowned or get married, though sometimes marriage = more people moving in. So yeah, me and all but 1 of my siblings all live at home (my dad had a hard time explaining to his family the one son that moved out was NOT disowned and there was no fighting, he just felt like moving out because things are different in this country compared to his own)

Though I also noticed it's been getting more normalized in several parts of the world. Not really due to family culture though, more so because of money and expenses.

[Merle]

Not myself, I moved out soon after turning 19 (and finishing school)

And that´s fairly common in Germany, too.
Honestly, no matter how much I (will) love my children, I would not want them to live in my house past 20 unless it is unavoidable. I want to see them on their own feet, experiencing freedom and the responsibitlty that comes with it once they become an adult. It is also considered as moving on to the next step in live for the parents, regaining more of their freedom again. Like, I would be looking forward to visiting my grown up children and vice versa, learning about them as independent households/families.

That said, I am also fascinated with other cultures where a different, more community kind of living is cultivated. I can totally imagine if I had grown up in such surroundings, I would be more comfortable with more generation housing, families staying together longer - and I can see the benefits of such a tighter knit (? at least for physical distance) family. Without fail we need to socialise a lot as humans andthe immediate family can provide a lot of sense of community.

Maybe our cultural understanding where I life or will live will be different int he future; or maybe my own perspective will change in the future - I wouldn´t think that would be bad, as long as it´s genuine.

[tinalynge]

I moved out when I turned 18.

It was new and exciting and I wanted to stand alone and be responsible.
It was quite hard, but it taught me a lot of things I would never want to be without.

My sister, on the other hand, is 31 and lives at home. She is quite happy with her situation, and I don't think there is any right or wrong for when you are supposed to move.

[Darkstrong]

I moved out completely at about 25 but, but before that I only lived at my mother's appartment for about 35% percent of the time between 22 and 25 because of studying abroad and working at a remote location.

[GamerPrincessXI]

He does want to live with me but I'm Christian and I'm a virgin. I kinda feel like I want to stay at home until he and I get married. He's the first serious relationship, I've ever really had and I kinda feel like I'm letting him down by sticking to my belief of living together while married. I know from a culture standpoint, people live with people, but I kinda wanna hold on to that. The only bad thing I've done with him was when I stayed over at his place when my parents were out of town. Not my proudest moment, btw all we did was sleep in the same bed. It was the best sleep ever. XD

[yansusu]

Have you asked him how he feels about it? I mean it could be he's totally alright with it. And if he isn't, then maybe you could find a compromise that works for both of you? E.g. maybe you'd be alright with already living together as long as you had separate bedrooms or something? (In case that'd be financially possible of course.) I just think in this type of situation, the most important is talking about it to see how the other person thinks about it and figure out how to deal with it together.