Does anyone live with their parents past 18?

[Jenny-Toons]

Hmm, it's kinda on and off for my case. After 18, I went to college and moved into the dorms. Though, during winter and summer breaks, I stay with my maternal mom while I do summer classes or summer internships.

After college, we've discussed that I'd live at home until I was able to find a place of my own. It's kinda the nature of how my family does these things. You stay at home until you get back on your feet, and you come back often to see family.

Though, then again, that also depended on the relationship we have. I have a good relationship with my family. We're able to be real with each other, tell each other things we might not tell others, and just feel comfortable in each other's presences. So me kinda living at home for a bit isn't that bad.

[SleepingPoppy]

Yep. I left for college and returned for breaks, then moved back in at home. I have loans to pay back from school, so financially it just makes more sense to live at home. It's not uncommon. But I also genuinely like being here. I don't want to get an apartment until I am financially stable.

@GamerPrincessXI I assume your fiancé doesn't so much care that you live with your parents, but actually just wants to live together? That's pretty normal for someone you're planning to marry. Did you want to live together in your parents home, or get a place together/move in with fiancé, when married?

[Humbug]

In my country, kids only move out when they finally get married, so it's normal for people past 18 to still live with their parents. I don't have a set time to move in with my boyfriend, and really I would just be moving into his mother's house. We have lots of friends who are single and in their 30s still living with their parents.

[ben]

Culturally, most people in my family don’t move out til they marry so it’s extremely normal for 20-something year olds to still be living with their parents. Heck, even after having kids it’s still normal cus a lot of people like having family around when they have small children. I was raised with my mom, grandma, aunts, and uncles around for a long time.

When I was younger however I was a bad kid and by this point it was just me and my mom. I left at 16 and my sister moved back in with my mom and my mom encouraged her to stay until she finished school and got a house. So she stayed until her mid-twenties.

[Kura]

In my culture, kids really only move out if they are disowned or get married, though sometimes marriage = more people moving in. So yeah, me and all but 1 of my siblings all live at home (my dad had a hard time explaining to his family the one son that moved out was NOT disowned and there was no fighting, he just felt like moving out because things are different in this country compared to his own)

Though I also noticed it's been getting more normalized in several parts of the world. Not really due to family culture though, more so because of money and expenses.

[Merle]

Not myself, I moved out soon after turning 19 (and finishing school)

And that´s fairly common in Germany, too.
Honestly, no matter how much I (will) love my children, I would not want them to live in my house past 20 unless it is unavoidable. I want to see them on their own feet, experiencing freedom and the responsibitlty that comes with it once they become an adult. It is also considered as moving on to the next step in live for the parents, regaining more of their freedom again. Like, I would be looking forward to visiting my grown up children and vice versa, learning about them as independent households/families.

That said, I am also fascinated with other cultures where a different, more community kind of living is cultivated. I can totally imagine if I had grown up in such surroundings, I would be more comfortable with more generation housing, families staying together longer - and I can see the benefits of such a tighter knit (? at least for physical distance) family. Without fail we need to socialise a lot as humans andthe immediate family can provide a lot of sense of community.

Maybe our cultural understanding where I life or will live will be different int he future; or maybe my own perspective will change in the future - I wouldn´t think that would be bad, as long as it´s genuine.

[tinalynge]

I moved out when I turned 18.

It was new and exciting and I wanted to stand alone and be responsible.
It was quite hard, but it taught me a lot of things I would never want to be without.

My sister, on the other hand, is 31 and lives at home. She is quite happy with her situation, and I don't think there is any right or wrong for when you are supposed to move.

[Darkstrong]

I moved out completely at about 25 but, but before that I only lived at my mother's appartment for about 35% percent of the time between 22 and 25 because of studying abroad and working at a remote location.

[GamerPrincessXI]

He does want to live with me but I'm Christian and I'm a virgin. I kinda feel like I want to stay at home until he and I get married. He's the first serious relationship, I've ever really had and I kinda feel like I'm letting him down by sticking to my belief of living together while married. I know from a culture standpoint, people live with people, but I kinda wanna hold on to that. The only bad thing I've done with him was when I stayed over at his place when my parents were out of town. Not my proudest moment, btw all we did was sleep in the same bed. It was the best sleep ever. XD

[yansusu]

Have you asked him how he feels about it? I mean it could be he's totally alright with it. And if he isn't, then maybe you could find a compromise that works for both of you? E.g. maybe you'd be alright with already living together as long as you had separate bedrooms or something? (In case that'd be financially possible of course.) I just think in this type of situation, the most important is talking about it to see how the other person thinks about it and figure out how to deal with it together.

[GamerPrincessXI]

Ah, I have cousins who live in Germany. One in Hamburg and the other, I'm not sure. Ahhhhh, What's Germany like? The art, music, everything???? Tell me everything. I still want to visit and see it for myself, though.

[arcojawa]

Yep... though my situation might be a tad different consider it was my parents that asked me to come back. I had previously been living at a house my brother owned because a friend of my dad's gave him the great idea to hold onto his house during the Great Recession. My brother wanted me to live there and pay rent until he could move back in himself, and eventually he did and so I started looking for an apartment (I enjoy the bachelor life).
But then my folks were like, "NO NO NO NO COME LIVE WITH US!". I had previously given them this big loan to help them out and they figured, "hey we'll pay you back by not charging you rent!"........... and I couldn't argue with that. So that was the way of things UNTIL.... the rent was payed back and I decided to start looking for an apartment again.
BUT.......... when my folks heard I was looking for an apartment they said, "NO NO NO NO Just stay here and keep paying rent"..... and here I am.............. what a bizarre situation

[GamerPrincessXI]

This is true. I should talk to him, more. I don't know what it is but I feel more comfortable talking to strangers to talking to the people that I actually care about. That's weird, right?

[yansusu]

Ah, no, I think it's understandable. I mean his response will have a big influence on your life, won't it? While our responses can help you sort through things on your own first and see some possibilities but it won't really impact your life directly. So going for the 'low risk' option first sounds pretty smart to me

[GamerPrincessXI]

Your parents love you and care for you. So, much so...They want you to stay forever. XD.

[arcojawa]

They love me whole-lots. And I love them whole-lots.............. and they drive me insane......... but that's probably okay I imagine.

[GamerPrincessXI]

One day, that day will come where our parents are no longer around. I'm constantly praying that they both live to be well into their hundreds.

[ZatchZ]

I'm 23 and still live with my parents. The reason why I'm staying with them is because rent and house rates are atrocious. The only way that I would be able to support myself on my own is to find a 16 hour job.
If your parents are trying to make you pay rent or move you out forcibly before you get your shit together and ready, they're shit people.

[spadesart]

im 21 and honestly, i wish i could have my own place but literally no job in my garbage town will give full time hours to employees. theyll schedule you just under so you cant have benefits and then refuse to pay over $10/hr which makes affording to live alone impossible. the good jobs require a masters degree, which i wont have for a long time, or ever. graphic design jobs all require 5+ years experience, and i have no clue how to get it, since no places will offer the chance for people just entering the workforce. i pay my parents a monthly fee to live here while im still attending college.

tbh? I dont think its as taboo now than in the past because of how horrible living costs are. its becoming more and more common to stay past 18 because ofbit.

[ryoko]

I lived with my parents until I was 21 because I was going to university and I couldn't afford to pay for tuition as well as living expenses even though I was working two jobs. My brother still lives with them and at first it was for the same reason and even though he's got a good job now after graduation, the cost of living is way too high to afford a house or condo. My brother pays rent, though, and takes care of maintenance around the house.

I'm sure my parents wanted me to stay living with them, but my partner and I ended up living in different countries for a while working for several years before moving back to Canada. My mom wanted us to move back near them, but the jobs we were qualified to do are in a different city. At least we're only a 10hr drive away.