Does anyone live with their parents past 18?

[GamerPrincessXI]

Dang, that's sad. I had a cousin like that. She was horrendous. I hated living with her. That's why I moved back home.

[Wumbl]

It's pretty normal in the UK to live with parents until some point in your 20s (bc of the housing economy being terrible)... But I moved out at 19 mainly because of having a bad relationship with mine. I felt pretty free after moving away, though, because they were toxic to me. This is why me and my BF live together at 20 and 19 years old.

[GamerPrincessXI]

Awwww, I'm sorry that happened to you.

[Wumbl]

Yeah. It's helped me to be more motivated but it's also unfortunate that any time I need my parents' help I have to endure ill treatment from them.

[GamerPrincessXI]

Tell your parents that they need to respect you too.

[Joker12]

Well, how old are you?
I live with my parents and I'm 19. I'm in college and work so because of that, i don't feel bad about living with them cause just like you, I'm still doing things to better myself lol,

[GamerPrincessXI]

1. I'm 27 turning 28 in December.

[Joker12]

so you're about to be 28. The way I see it is, so long as you work, could afford to move out, or help your parents out than it doesn't matter

[NickRowler]

I lived with my parents until I was about 22 or 23. My parents wanted me to live in there basement and to eat with them, however I was really depressed there and sick all the time. I moved out to live with my older brothers. I noticed I felt a lot better. Having a cleaner house and a more controlled diet helped me a lot. My brothers than moved out, and my little sisters moved in. My parents technically own out house and we pay them rent. However, they are refuse to tell us how much everything costs. We said we would pay more but they won't listen to us. I do wish I was 100% independent. My parents have a tendency to get nosy and I constantly worry that my room and my possessions are not 100% private.

[GamerPrincessXI]

Sad. I'm sorry that you have to go through that. ️

[Wumbl]

Oof I wish they could understand that... sadly they're narcissistic so they can't really understand it even though I've tried to tell them.
They can't help being that way really.

[Carossmo]

Me. And I'm 24. It's most common in the Philippines, maybe SE Asian countries as well, correct me if I'm wrong.

But yeah, in the Philippines, people have a strong "family-oriented" mindset that y'all can live under one roof (even until the age of 50 but that's really a joke to some, but it happens here)... Honestly based on experience, it's a hassle lol

[Kelheor]

parents wanted me to live in there basement

I suppose being from the country where 80% people live in apartments and it's rare to have your own house (especially with basement and all), I cannot even grasp this concept. WTF is with "parents told me to live in the basement"? Don't you guys have rooms where you lived when you were younger or something?? Or if you do, what are the parents doing with those rooms so that you have to live in a basement? I suppose they don't rent them to anyone else, so what are they, using them as storage rooms or something? This is so wild

[GamerPrincessXI]

My brother initially had a room upstairs gradually out grew his old room. My parents decided to redo the whole basement and make it into a huge bedroom for him. Being in the basement has it perks. If there is a tornado, we go down there and wait.

[sarrowsmith10]

My parents decided to redo the whole basement and make it into a huge bedroom for him.

Our house has a finished basement too. It has bedroom, bathroom, laundry and a kitchenette. My mom lives down there, since she is aging and I take care of her. I think basements in the US are pretty common, although in my state they aren't since the ground is too hard usually to dig that deep (Arizona). So I'm kinda lucky.

Now, that I'm older, I feel as though they want me to leave.

I think leaving the nest, especially if you live in the US is a normal part of life. Your parents probably just want to see you move forward with your life and be independent. Although if you are getting ready to get married, it seems strange they would want you to try and rent somewhere while you could be saving up money for a down payment on a house or for your own place.

Have you sat down with your parents and asked them what their expectations are? Maybe what sort of future they hope to see for you? When I was getting ready to get married, I wanted to move out since I had already spent 4 years on my own in another state for college. My dad was insistent that paying rent somewhere was a waste of money, and that I should be saving for a house. Then he passed away right before my wedding, so my husband and I couldn't live at home even if we wanted to. I also think that your future spouse should be present too in that conversation. It might help to clear the air and give you some direction.

[GamerPrincessXI]

True....I should talk with all of them.

[Wumbl]

Aye I'm filipino too and there's a lot of family-being-together attitudes...

Which is a shame, because if it weren't for that being such a big part of my family's culture it would be possible for me to cut them out of my life. Unfortunately they don't want to be estranged from me bc of us being "pamilya tayo!!!" but if I could have my way I'd cut them off... They're horrible to be honest.

It works great for families that are healthy! Sadly mine isn't.

[GamerPrincessXI]

I'm sorry. I'm actually African American and I was born premature. At birth, I weight one pound and one ounce. The doctors at the time, said I wouldn't live past five. Same for my older brother. Our parents wouldn't have that. They worked hard to fix our problems that we had and gave us the world. We'd been a lot of places over the years. Thank God, we were strong enough to see everything. Anyway, I started this thread because I guess I wanted to find out how many people lived with their loved ones still. In the end, I always found out how many people have parents that aren't nice to them, too. I guess I'll never understand how a parent could be so mean to their child or children.

[NickRowler]

I have 6 siblings. My four youngest siblings lived upstairs. My older brothers and I lived in the basement. I got one of my brother's old room, so he had to sleep in the common area when he came back from college, more or less, he didn't have a room. That is why my brothers and my parents came together to get a house for us. My two youngest siblings (adults) still live with my parents with my sister upstairs and my younger brother in the basement (it also allows him to jam out without bugging people). My other younger sister used to live in the basement when she came back from college but she hated how my parents was treating her and she instead lives with me.

[GamerPrincessXI]

@ratique Do you have anything to add to this thread or do you wanna close it? Also, do you watch all of the threads or just here and there threads? How many do you watch a day? Why do you chose this profession? Do you like this job or is it just to past the time? How many questions is too many questions?