You're basically telling people to do something because you had a bad experience and you're negating those that actually do have it.
And here you're contradicting yourself, because literally anyone can tell you that just because you had bad experiences doesn't negate the point of others that collaborations can actually work if with proper care and done correctly
Obviously, begginers lack a lot of the things to properly make a collaboration fruitful, but experience comes by trying and experiencing things. You're going to fail in everything more times than you'll actually win, and this is on everything, not only collabs. Because there is something called learning involving, getting experience, getting knowledge, getting skill, getting plannification, getting new tools, etc.
Is like playing with a character that has never been leveled up and complaining that you're being killed several times even on the first levels, or because you're playing it for the very first time.