Love triangle problems

[cherrystark]

I honestly relate so much to your post, it's not even funny. I'm also one of those girls that intimidate guys because I'm "too confident". But as my old teacher aptly pointed out, I am only confident and outgoing when I'm comfortable. If not, I'm quiet and in "observer" mood,

From my own experiences, Guy A would be the kind of guy to see you the "side-eye" when you decide to act silly in public. He could still be sweet and understand, the textbook "ideal guy" but would give you trouble if you didn't adhere to a "look". Guy B, though definitely not perfect, would be the type to poke you in the side and ask you why you weren't acting "normal" and if everything was okay.

[Fun-SizeMojo]

I picked guy A because I am a sucker for stories with sweet and devoted love interests!

[IzeB]

Honestly, the reason why I asked for help is because I want to know what other people think. And just by reading your statement, I come into realization that I never think about the girl about her feelings. I was so caught up to the situation where I keep forcing her to choose without noticing if "Do she need to choose?". As I reviewed her description, the possibility of her choosing someone from that choices is still there, but choosing someone that wasn't mentioned or not choosing at all is never zero. Thank you for the insight.

[IzeB]

The guilt trip issue is truly problematic to deal with. I'll take note of this. Thank you for the help.

[cherrystark]

Of course! I'm a big fan of trusting your gut in situations like this. Depending on how you present the story and the relationships, one pairing will usually have a stronger chemisty - that's why "ships" are so common. You couldd even write it so the girl doesn't have to choose. Like if she's dating Guy A, but has better chemistry Guy B - A could break up with her because he decides to put her happiness first. There are a lot of options to play with.

[SleepingPoppy]

I think the description of Guy A is lacking. While it sounds very noble and romantic, "I'd give up everything for my love" is a really boring character trait, and not actually a basis for a relationship of equals and partners. If he's a really giving and loving person in general, it'd be nice to know that in other ways, so he comes off rounded and loving instead of desperate. Also, like, whats fun about him? What does the MC love about him? What does he love about MC?

Guy B I think it really depends on the kind of person MC is. For some people, a partner flirting with others would really be crossing a line. Especially if she is a more insecure person, this would be really hurtful, and it'd damage trust between them. If she's more confident she might either not put up with it, or she much understand it's just play and trust him. It really depends on the dynamic.

[IzeB]

Wow, thank you for giving me this perspective. I was genuinely happy that you noticed the word "faithful" that I intentionally put instead of the word loyal. I, too, know the difference of loyal and faithful, in fact, we have the same definition. This really helped me see these characters more deeply which I wasn't aware. Some of the guesses aren't hitting the character's description but everything you said is indeed realistic. And also, pointing out that Guy A must be naive or knoe what love is enlightened me. Also, suggesting for the girl to return the favor of flirting back, I do see her doing it and I think it would be a very good counter attack since the Guy B was never been flirted by someone.

I could really use this perspective of yours since I haven't been into a relationship. This greatly helps. Thank you for the time

[IzeB]

You hit one of the options, actually.

[IzeB]

Thank you for giving this post of mine some of your time. Your perspective will not be wasted. Also, pointing out their probable difference in a simple situation gives me more knowledge of the situation.

[joannekwan]

Honestly, what is your protagonist/person who these two guys are after like? Does she not mind guy A being a little possesive? Does she not mind B being flirtatious? If she has issues with one, go with the other.

EDIT: Or better yet, she doesn't have to choose and go poly.

[djourner]

As a polyromance writer... my answer to love triangles is just to say 'both' every single time.
Learn to share people.

[joannekwan]

Hehe, I started my protagonist with 3 L-interests with the full intention of letting her have 2 of them in the end.

I really couldn't see it any other way because both offer something unique to her and missing one would leave a hole in her life.
And now I'm working on the sequel where the L-interests develop their own relationship to have things neat and tidy.

[Crusoe]

I present to you the option: why not both? I'm kidding, if poly is not in your wheelhouse. honestly do whatever your story needs and what fits best. Think from the perspective of your MC: who would they go for? What makes sense for them? Think about what connection they have with each other and what flows from the plot you've set up.

[DiegoPalacios]

Person B showed her what true happiness is despite his standing in life.....so it seems like Guy B is the right one for her.....

Keep your money Guy A and give your partner space.

[Daisy]

No problem! Hope it helps you decide which guy is suitable to be the girl's lover.

[crimson_mystery_cake]

Murder the hypotenuse

[IzeB]

Why choose if she can have both? Hahahahah!

[IzeB]

It really do depends to the girl. I'll really need to review her.

[IzeB]

Murdering them was one of the option back in the day but I think I shouldn't do it because I already have killed so many chatacters. So, maybe let them live

[crimson_mystery_cake]

No

I am the devil(s food cake) on your shoulder and I say you kill them.

kill them all