One line of Advice for everyone's lives

[faisalhussein394]

What advice would you offer to an individual in order to avoid terrible and frustrating experience to improve their actions?

Mine is this:

"Think and ask, before you act".

I brought this up because I realize that everything you do, whether from work or in your life, might not be right in everyone's mind. So you think and ask, and when everything is clear, you do what you're supposed to do without making a mistake.

Like how I didn't ask nor think which is a sugar powder until I realize it was salt after my mother drink the tea and I ended up not having her trust in me offering her tea ever again (That was before I went to college).

What line (possibly rhymes) of advice would you give to everyone?

[ble]

Don't microwave the soup too much. Sure the part on top may not be that hot, but beware the bottom part, that's really hot. Burned my tongue a lot by not paying attention.

Or you could translate that shit into: "pay more attention to your current task"

[faisalhussein394]

Good one, mate.

[elyss]

The sooner you stop worrying about what people think of you and your choices, the sooner you can live a happy life.

I stopped caring some time in high school and have finally let go this year and it is liberating. I work around women who let other's judgment steer them into reckless decisions to keep face. It's so frustrating and I just want more people to live for themselves.

[scribesunlimited]

"A person often meets his destiny on the road he took to avoid it." - Jean de La Fontaine.

Something about this quote just sticks out to me. Maybe there really is no fate, or destiny, or whatever. Maybe there's really some comical, crazed genius up on high controlling it all.

But seriously? If there was, would we really be doing so much to change our lives all the time, and not just let things happen?

Absolutely not.

So don't just sit back and let things happen. If it's meant to happen, it'll happen. Take what you can get out of life, and just be happy. That's the most important thing.

[cherrystark]

Mine is a toss between "You are Enough." and "It Get's Better."

I've learned that it's super easy to fall into the trap of "doing a little more" or "if I do this, then..." While it's totally good to improve yourself and to help others, it also opens you up to be manipulated. I spent about 4 years in a super abusive work environment that physically and mentally exhausted me. Despite all of my best efforts to do the best job I could and look out for my teammates, I was beaten down so I frequently cried at work because there was seemingly nothing I could do to improve my situation and it felt like I was trapped.

Now, I am in a positive environment so I can heal. I've learned that I am enough. I don't need to run faster than I have strength and carry the whole metaphorical world on my shoulders. I can ask for help and actually get it, instead of the song and dance about how helpful they've been and never see the results.

You are enough. It'll get better!

[pilot-obvious]

Things will always come together.

Sometimes when everything seems to go wrong and you feel like you're failing at life, you need to take a deep breath and be aware of the situation. Take a look at the things that are in your control and accept that some things are beyond your control. Eventually, things will fall into place. I live every day with that mindset and it allows me to accept situations I don't like so I can focus on what I can get from it that I do like. I think that mindset it what makes things always come together.

[alextsarace]

Things take time.

I always need to remind this one to myself.

[faisalhussein394]

That is a great advice.

[faisalhussein394]

That is true, very true.

[DualDragons]

"Lie only when you need to, because otherwise you'll trap yourself in a corner" is one I usually use in daily life

[faisalhussein394]

Great advice, lie only to avoid harm.

[faisalhussein394]

Superb advice, It's also good to know that you're in a positive manner.

[honeyandcreambutter]

"Don't dwell on things too much. Life is too short to worry about things beyond your control."

Whenever I feel frustrated or angry about something, I try not to let it bother me for more than a day (currently trying to cut that down shorter). There are better things to consume my time with.

[Jophiel]

its a bad day, not a bad life.

always tell myself this when I feel very out of it.

[scribesunlimited]

Never was much of a fan of "it gets better".

Mostly because of the fact that "better" is extremely vague and without real substance, and is also completely open to interpretation and perception. "Better" to me might mean something completely different for someone else.

And how much better? Better enough that we don't feel the same horrible ways we did? We're not as depressed or feeling as hopeless?

I'm all for changing the message somewhat. "it changes."
And it does.
That's one thing you can absolutely guarantee for everyone on this Earth.

[therosesword]

I'm an atheist but I've always rather liked the tenth commandment (and quite a few of the others): "You shall not covet your neighbor's goods."

My translation of it, to me (and my dad was big on this) is this: Stop worrying or wanting what the other guy has. You don't know what he had to do to get it. Concentrate on your stuff, whether it's your writing or your newest toy.

I see this quite often in comments where people are agonizing over other people's numbers, likes, subs etc. They want to know how to change what they do to grab those numbers, likes, subs etc.

I usually end my posts with "Write hard, write true." That's where the true comes in. The other guy is probably writing/drawing "true." Their work is coming from a place inside them that is true to them. No matter what you do you're not going to be able to copy him. Audiences recognize that.

So stop worrying about the other guy and keep trying to be true to yourself and improve yourself daily.

end of soapbox.

Write hard, write true.

[MeltingCORE]

My advice is always that you need to love and respect yourself before you can do the same for others. People who don't even find themselves worthy of love/respect tend to treat others badly. (Not always but it's common, I've noticed.) You don't have to think you're perfect (no one is) but it is important to understand yourself. Everyone is worthy of self love.

[faisalhussein394]

Nice advice of learning how to respect him/herself before others, it's true none of us can be perfect, we don't have that full Mary Sue trait. XD

[Lazu]

Hmm. Mine would be
"Remember to breathe"

Sounds easy enough and all, but in stressful situations it's super hard to remember something so simple. Breathing a few times really helps to clear the mind, and puts things into perspective just a bit, almost no matter the situation.
And it's also a bit funny that something we do automatically can be so hard to remember sometimes.