Relationship Opinions and Age

[zetina]

idc what people do as long as they're not abusing/manipulating another person using a power imbalance (the adult + teen type of imbalance being the topic of this thread). i'm really used to seeing teenagers being shown about as mature/stupid as the adults in some manga so i'm a bit desensitized tbh. though i've also seen ones where the author and thus the adult character in the pair take the other character's youth and inexperience seriously. "Love So Life" features a hs girl falling for her employer but the main driving point of the story is really her being the nanny of a pair of twins he's the uncle of. in the end, the man says she should take 10 years to grow up first and if she still feels the same, he's down for a relationship. so yeah, i'm of the opinion that you can make individual cases work. on that note, don't read all of "Usagi Drop"/stick to the anime of it only. ene

and another comic that has been promoted recently about a teacher whose wife died and was then reincarnated as his student was like nononono for the same reason.

but he's not lusting after her hs version. he's not seeking a relationship.

[Mari]

Before the characters are both 25,age difference of max 3 years. After that I don't give a shit. I get pedo vibes with 20+ year age difference ye, but if they were both adults and consent who am I to say they can't be together. But below 25 years old like no. Just date your own age. I've been on multiple dates with men and women younger than me by like 4-6 years in my twenties, and everytime I've been like holy crap they are just kids get out of here. Ugh.

Anything with a power dynamic on top of that (student-teacher, doctor-patient etc) is such an extreme nope it makes me sick.

[nikaalexandra]

i agree with the half your age + seven rule....to a point
for example, in my real actual life, a 21 year old college guy who is closer in age to me has started pursuing my 16 year old sister which i find WILDLY inappropriate and i have to keep reminding her to think about "why isn't he dating girls his own age and has to pursue highschoolers?"

i agree with the above, when it comes to minors, age is super important and the dating difference should be 2/3 years max, meanwhile, once you hit your 20s you can start to stretch that range all the way up to dating people in their late 20s etc

[nadis]

two consenting adults is 100% okay. when we dive into the rhelm of children i get unsettled and appropriately judgemental

[geovannicharles001]

Is it me or like everyone is cheating now a days. Almost every relationship I see now a days has someone cheating on the low. Like sheesh, what is dating anymore.

[ChanYE]

i think alot of you are missing the point of telling a story when it comes to age.
when your telling a story, what do you want to show your reader?
A close age range (1-3 years for children/teens and 5-10 years for adults) can mean that the author isnt putting an emphasis on the age and that part of the characters relationship is quite frankly 'in check'.
A far range like 30yrs and 80yrs, 18yrs and 40yrs or stretching to illegal numbers something like 13yrs and 30yrs means that the author is trying to show you something is up in this relationship.

it just depends what the author wants you to notice. it doesnt matter what age it is, long as the author is showing you what they want to tell you.

[Jenny-Toons]

I don't think it was about what we interpret from the stories or the authors, but rather what a lot of us sorta have limits on? I mean, that's just what I got from this topic and that's how I sorta commented for here.

Story wise, yeah -- an author is most likely telling us something about the relationship, whether good or bad. But I think most people here are just saying what they think about age gaps and relationships in a general sense (whether that's in stories or otherwise).

[IdiotWithPencil]

it just depends what the author wants you to notice

or they think it's normal since their country says it's normal (japan 16 you can marry, Taiwan paedophile is legal"I think", etc). sometimes culture clash happens =/

[gh0stcr33p]

not with minors.....

[arushiangelica]

That's already a crime.