@dawgofdawgness @tulemag93
If it makes you guys feel better, I didn't date in high school nor did I particularly care about romance or falling in love or anything like that. I didn't think too hard about it. I was busy hanging out with my friends, going to the movies, doing homework and travelling with my parents. One of my friends took me to my senior prom, and we hung out with a big group of people. Never once did I ever feel pressured to pair off or be alone or make any kind of commitment. I think the media really wants teens to feel like dating and boyfriends are normal and the "thing to do" when you are teen but I feel that's mostly bogus.
I did have a boyfriend in college, but it was very casual and fun. Again, not heavy romance stuff. We broke up when he graduated, since we didn't have any real plans for the future.
When I graduated from college I found myself spending all my time with the same guy who happened to have taken me to PROM. He was basically my best friend and we did everything together and over time fell in love and now we are married with two kids and will be celebrating 8 years of marriage this year. He really is my best friend, and I love having someone to hang out with, go on adventures, whine to about random junk... it just feels very natural and we mutually agreed to get married, it wasn't a surprise at all for me (or for him). None of that "suddenly realized my feelings" junk you see in shojo manga. LOL.
I don't think romance needs to be hot and heavy and certainly your whole life does not need to focus around 1 person (that sounds very obsessive and weird to me). I still have my friends, he has his, and we have a bunch of mutuals.
As to answer the original post, just write about what you wish your love life could be. Do you wish you were in some kind of cute, innocent love? Or some kind of NSFW romance? I mean, most romance is unrealistic escapist fantasy anyways (most people who like romance stories LOVE that sort of thing). It doesn't need to be realistic to be good.