Humor is subjective, holmes. In forum form, I wouldn't have found it funny either way; as I said, I've heard that kind of joke a million times, being black myself. I can remember it being truly funny exactly once. I still get a chuckle thinkin' back on that instance.
And that's from someone who doesn't balk at the joke in and of itself. Lots o' folk here do--probably the majority--and not without cause. Like I said, gotta know your audience.
@punkarsenic But is general consensus right? Remember, my joke didn't insult anyone's intelligence or culture. It didn't liken black people to animals or dismiss all the suffering in their history. It didn't make any moral statements with regard to black people. And it definitely wasn't mean-spirited. All it said was, "Your skin is dark, therefore you blend in with things that are dark."
I get that there are bad associations, but the joke itself isn't offensive. Which makes me wonder where all your reactions are coming from.
Are you actually developing an accent as we talk?
i think you might have hit on something with 'bad associations' - but lets take it further, and say the joke has bad history. its the kind of joke racists make, its the kind of joke that highlights that someones skin is particularly dark and therefor different from the teller of the joke, which can make people feel uncomfortable and othered. jokes about black peoples skin can get way more racist, so that joke is the tip of an iceberg that looms into everyone's mind when its told. while it may be true that someones skin is darker and different to yours, laughing about it can still be hurtful, and its not really your joke to make. i know, weve clashed before on the 'your x to y' side of things, but please realise that when youre telling a joke, it is most definitely coming from you, and who you are affects its delivery. and thats just not a joke people fancy hearing from a nonblack guy. context is everything, dude.
anyway, i think youre missing the part of my original point that was 'who cares?' like, really, it was a small and unfunny joke, the reaction was unsurprising, itd be easier if we all just carried on. going with @ScorpiusNox 's standup allegory, when a joke falls flat you dont spend the rest of the show asking people why they didnt laugh, why they maybe bood - you make light of it, and swiftly move on.
now, lets move on. i did my first figure drawing session in ages, because theyd been cancelled at college for the last three and a half months, and i havent had the time to organise them myself. i am so out of practice, its super frustrating. i made some alright stuff by the end, but i think if theres no life drawing when i get back to college next week, im gonna have to find sessions elsewhere, and i think id be complaining to head of department.
gasp.......... clever
ive considered stuff like that actually, its nice, natural. back when i studied theatre the actors used to lounge about in place a lot while the director gave instructions, i got some great drawings of them. dancers too! dancers are the best! i could organise a deal with the dance students at college, were in the same block and pretty friendly. double win, bc i love watching dance (and dancers are very very attractive, wholesale)
that said, actual life drawing sessions have the benefit of being able to ask someone to stay in place for an exact period of time, chasing after a pose before its gone can be stressful
I shift accents as I engage online. It's just sorta fun for me, and I also hope the playfulness of it helps to make clear that I'm in good spirits in regards to the discussion 
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One does not simply sneak into yoga...
...Right? I mean, those rooms are pretty small. Wouldn't they catch you and throw you out x) ?
ive recently reconnected with a dear friend from school, and its really nice, but she has this habit of calling me out of the blue to chat. i really love it, but its so hard to double-focus, and i end up going 'yeah yeah yep' for whole conversations. :U she seems to appreciate it tho, its nice to hear from her
Does anyone else get like "envious" of bi/pan people? I mean you get more choices, and if anyone asks what your sexuality is you can just say that you love everyone and you won't be judged as much. Like 15% of my school is bi/pan and I don't know a single person who is straight up gay. The only person I can truly relate to is one of my guy friends because he's so straight he's practically a lesbian
howmst?
i feel u, im the only person in my friendgroup who doesnt like guys (bi girls, straight girls, one gay guy) and its rly weird. kinda lonely, in a way? but im like aggressively deliberately proud of being a lesbian, so i dont find myself envying bi ppl a lot ig.
I wouldn't say I outright envy them given the stigmas attached, but I will say that if I could choose, I'd prefer to be more attracted to men. I imagine it being easier to find a significant other, or at the very least a date T_T .
If I could be bi, I reckon that'd be close enough. Maybe. Depends how bi I was.
after all, it's free
