What do you feel / do, when OTHERS are envious of you?

[vothnthorvaldson]

As a mirror image of how I've never been bullied for reasons even vaguely pertinent, I've never (as far as I know) been unreasonably admired or envied for anything that would make any sense.
So generally it lets me baffled, awkward, and the only option I see is avoidance and (extra) aloofness. So I don't think I have any good advice to give you
I do think there are people who appreciate me for good reasons, but they have a tendancy to be reasonnable, I think!

[DiegoPalacios]

But even these rare occasions worry me, because they can potentially turn into the source of problems in the future. In some other areas of life it already bothers me a lot and caused me some problems. I mean, I certainly enjoy, when people admit my achievements and give me their respect (who don't enjoy it? ). But when they are envy, it bothers me and sometimes even makes me feel guilty.

there is no need to feel guilty for their vices. That is their problem and they have to work it. If everyone were afraid of standing out because of envy, we would probably never be able to chat here online because no one would dare to invent computers.

In my case when envy turned into hostility (or any case that involve any sort of hostility, subtle or not), i just diplomatically roast them, so they get umconfortable when they mess with me.

[LT1986]

I haven't been in situations where I can prove that someone is envious of me.

If I did discover that someone was envious of me, I would view it as a sign of success.

Here's why. Jealousy/envy usually occurs when someone is achieving something that is usually positive for one individual but not for another individual.

[rmdooley]

I feel nothing.

I am dead on the inside.

[dawgofdawgness]

It’s flattering until they start insulting themselves. Like the “I can’t even draw a stickman” line is an overused joke in the artist community for a reason lol. I have no clue how to respond to that other than “oh... ok” [forced smile]

[mariusthered]

“I can’t even draw a stickman”

"then try using the pointy end"

is the line i would give.

[unknown_user]

@mariusthered That's the best answer

[Rodimus13]

I don't think I've had anyone be jealous of me before, except with cooking which quickly turns into "Oh I can show you how" or "I have a video, you wanna try?" and I go teacher mode on them.

When it's hubby's art or logos he gets excited someone thinks his stuff is good and I am all "Ok he has tips, ya want them?"

If someone did it over my writing for the story... I dunno how I'd react. I tend to be a "OK! Let's teach you the skills you think I'm better at! YOU CAN DO IT LETS GO!" if they are upfront with it.

[Domae]

My former friend was/is dealing with self-esteem and self-image problems, and it manifested through comparing herself to me and making me seem like a better/more put together/perfect person than I actually was, especially when I was always transparent about my mental health and socioeconomic struggles. Because of this exaggeration, she would do things to "bring me down a notch" and make herself feel better. It got to the point where she would make plans, not invite me, then send me pictures or call me while she was out with her other friends. She would even say things like "My family let me bring a friend on this trip in a year AND I asked so-and-so". Keep in mind that I was the person she'd cry and vent to more often than not.

The odd thing is, it really didn't make me sad or anything. Whenever she'd try to bring me down, I'd always respond either nonplussed or positively "Good for you!"/"Have fun!" because it just didn't make me doubt my self worth. After she flaked out on plans last minute, multiple times (one time leaving me without a ride somewhere) I told her that it felt like I was a convenient friend and she agreed.

The end.

[Domae]

Same. I'm all for building others up

[OttoGruenwald]

If anyone is envious of me or my work, I haven't met them. If anyone is I feel bad for them. All the great writers in the world and you pick me to be envious of? There are better.

[Cavechan]

It happened once before where I drew a face real quick and it wasn't special in any way, but a friend of mine was like "I'm jealous of how quick you drew that."

I don't think I'd feel bad or anything. I wasn't a natural born artist or someone who improved quickly. I put in the time, took art classes, focused on art in high school, went to art college and did the weekly 6-8 hour drawing classes drawing nude models or still lifes. I studied manga to learn the techniques. Then I still wasn't very good so I just kept pushing myself and finally, at 33 years old, am finally at a place where I'm somewhat satisfied with my art. Even if it's not perfect at times, I at least don't think it's horrendous to look at. It certainly took a while to get to where I am today. So if someone is envious of my artwork, I would take it as a pat on the back for the work I put into it. Unless if they were crazy envious. lol

In high school, I had a friend that I was envious of her artwork. She drew things very easily and quickly and they always looked professional, even back then. She had a natural talent for drawing and every day, every class, she was drawing. That was an awkward point of our relationship though and probably why it didn't last past high school. I would say "That drawing looks amazing!" or give a compliment and the response was always, without a smile or any emotion, "Thanks" and then staring back down at the paper. When I would show a drawing I would do, the response was always, without a smile or any emotion, "Cute" and that was it.

[ALAvidere]

I can't think of anyone who would be envious of me since I try to be fair with everyone (and I'm not even that great to begin with). If they are, then that is their issue to deal with, not mine. I'm just here trying to improve myself and have a bit of personal growth and it's unfair that I have to belittle myself just so I can make someone else happy, and who probably doesn't even care about me in the first place.

I would just completely distance myself from them. I HATE it when people compare themselves to me because each person grows differently

[Mari]

Literally the only thing I've heard people say they're envious about my art are the colours, and when that happens I try to give tips and tricks so they can get where I'm at since it's not that hard, probably...

[LCT_m_a_d]

You can always remind people of the things that they are improving in or doing well in (especially if it's different from what you do). People often envy others not because they want what others have, but instead they've never learned that what they can do is important.

Not just that they are good at something, but also that what they are good at matters and can make a difference.

[ZFalk]

I can't think of when I've had someone be envious of my writing or drawing. If they have, they've been quiet about it

People would come to me for help sometimes, but there's been no jealousy I could see.

I'm usually on the other side. It's hard not to get jealous, when you see amazing work. My jealousy manifests weirdly, though. I'll start gushing about their work, and looking at everything they've done, trying figure out how they got so. damn. good.

I've had friends turn nasty or jealous about other things in my life, though, and they'd say some pretty awful things in passing. Things aimed to bring a person down. I'd always ignore it and keep on as though they'd not said anything, like absolutely refusing to show any reaction. Or I'd turn it into a joke. Or, if it was in front of a group of people, I'd be super nice and just let them expose themselves, if that makes sense?
And my investment in their opinion or company would go down and down, until I'd just close the door on that relationship. Life's so short, you know?

There's bigger fish to fry.