3 parent households

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How common would you say three parent households are?

Im referring to a situation where let's say a guy dated a girl and they broke up, then he got married to another woman. Then he later finds out his first girlfriend was pregnant. In some kind of fashion all three of the adults live together and agree to help raise the kid.

Or another situation. A gay couple has a surrogate have they're baby, but after the baby I'd born, the mother sticks around.

Or another another situation. A kid was adopted by a loving family but eventually one of his birth parents comes into the picture and somehow moves in.

How common do you think these sort of families are? Would you personally like to read stories about these sort of families? What are you're general opinions on three parent families?

And for context, it's relevant because I've decided to write one of these families into one of my ongoing series here on Tapas.

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[darthmongoose]

Most of the three parent families I know of are actually more like "Polycules" where there's a stable and consentual polyamorous relationship going on. Usually one person with two partners who aren't necessarily into each other, but are on friendly terms and happy with the arrangement, but it's not out of the question that there could be more partners, and perhaps even multiple kids who may or may not be half-siblings coming from the different partners other or past relationships.
I've seen a fair bit of demand for stories about healthy polyamory, but it's never really felt like my place to write something like that, being naturally monogamous myself.

[Kelheor]

Definitely not common. Unless there are some actual feelings on the horizon (polyamory), it sounds like a really awkward situation to be in to me

[Azifri]

The situations you described I'd say are rather uncommon; what I see happens more often is parents living together with an aunt/uncle or a grandparent, and the latter contributes with raising the children (they're not just roommates, to say so).

[TAMAnnoying]

This is very uncommon and the reason is mostly the living together part. I've seen a couple of adopted kids who get to see their biological parents every month or so and it's usually nice happy little visits but I don't think I've ever encountered an experience of anyone living together- at least for an extended period of time.

The reason why is the same reason why you might try to live with your best friend and then you realize your life styles don't match up. I.e. one person gets left doing all the laundry and never agreed to it- no one cleans the bathrooms- or something as simple as one of you drank the last can of diet Pepsi without asking. And that's without getting into potential horrible power dynamics you might encounter like the landlord being your roommate. (Which could be a potential issue here if the adoptive parents are the house owners and want rent for the room or something)

Overall it's not IMPOSSIBLE but it's very unlikely unless the three or more people have a lot of prior agreements (have maybe all lived together before the child?) and life style arrangements that fit together very nicely such as the person who likes cooking cooking meals for everyone or some such thing like that. Otherwise the more likely outcome is people trying this - realizing they hate that Ted is always watching family guy in the living room so you can never play borderlands on the Xbox and that Jeffry always eats everyone snacks and you all move out after the first year.

I think azifri has the best idea? Having it be an already existing family unit such as the aunt or grandfather who takes part in raising the child. Tho if you're trying to stay away from blood relatives for whatever reason you can also just have the aunt or uncle who lives with the parents be an adoptive brother (potentially to keep the theme of adoption?idk)

[NickRowler]

3 parent households are not that common. I think what is more common is if there is two parents and a live-in relative, like an aunt or uncle or grandparent.

A gay couple has a surrogate have they're baby, but after the baby I'd born, the mother sticks around.

Surrogates don't always have access to the child. Some surrogates might not even be the child's biological mother. Straight couples also seek out surrogates and surrogates can also come from egg donors.

A kid was adopted by a loving family but eventually one of his birth parents comes into the picture and somehow moves in.

Depends on if it is an open or closed adoption. If it is a closed adoption, legally, the birth parent can not do this. In cases like that, it has to be the child being an legal adult choosing to seek out their birth parent. In an open adoption, it's rare that the parent would move in. Tho some will still met with their kids from time to time or get updates. My adopted siblings are from another country and my parents stayed in contact with their birth mother and siblings. But I have also met people who, usually from in country adoptions, who disliked meeting their birth parents due to is being common that kids are given up due to the parent having a mental illness or issues with drugs.

Would you personally like to read stories about these sort of families? What are you're general opinions on three parent families?

I think a story about three parents could be interesting as long as it isn't some sister-wives thing. Some people see Steven Universe as Steven having three moms, so it can work.

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