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Apr 2019

This shit seems to be the most common on Webtoons from my perspective. Christ, even in some non-BL comics there are similar comments. It's one of the biggest reasons I do just about everything I can to avoid comments on Webtoons.

"Hella".

I've legitimately dropped series in the past and just moved on when there are characters that use this phrase with regularity. There aren't many phrases or sayings I absolutely abhor more than this.

I've only heard "boys will be boys" in the context that kids will be childish, don't expect a young kid to act like an adult man. Like how a kid will play in the mud and get dirty or how kids will bring frogs into the house. I've never heard it used to justify harassment, so I don't understand where that came from.

"Get your shit together."

Not even my endocrinologist has succeeded in getting my shit together and it's been two years. How about you try to get my shit together for me, huh?!

"Just be yourself"

I have two major issue with this phrase.One, EVERYONE puts on a persona when it comes to who they interact with, how you act around one group may differ like towards your parents or at work or around friends or around your lover. People sort of have different modes for different people. Then there is the whole psychological concept of the face you show others and the face you keep to yourself. I think people are rarely 100% themselves, mostly just trying to adapt to situations.

Two, I sometimes feel like some people's natural self can be a bit shitty. I once heard someone say "Just be yourself, but if nobody likes you, change." which I feel is far more appropriate.

I used to hear that one a lot from my high school. It's a way to brush off what others think is a trivial matter when, in fact, the boys' behavior should be corrected. It used to be a benign word that meant exactly what you say: boys roll in the mud, bring home whatever creepy-crawleys they find, etc. Now, it's become a way to deflect responsibility for behavior that was learned.

"If someone bullies you, that means they like you"

Just...what makes this ok to say to any child? All you're implying is that:

A) Bullying is ok if someone likes you.
B) People who truly like you go out of their way to hurt you.

And I know this is often used in terms of boys bullying girls, but growing up, I also equally heard a lot of parents tell their sons this nonsense when girls bullied them. It just really made me grateful that my family never said anything like that to me or ever hinted that it was ok for someone to bully me just because they "liked" me.

Honestly, it's how you groom people into thinking abuse is ok or that they somehow deserve being mistreated.

“Pay up or we’ll cut off your electricity!” And “Pay up or we’ll cut off your internet service!”.
I roll my eyes ever time I hear it.

"What is mutual acceptance, care and understanding? Underage person, don't do me harm, don't do me harm. Never again."
Don't know where I've heard it, but I can't get it out of my head...

"we need to do [x] somewhen" which means stuff never gets done. my father uses this alot and I'm sooo anoyed by it xD

This is the perfect meaning of: "wanting to help, but not really and making everything worse". I'm sooo happy my parents never used that. I would have been even more confused...