How will I apologize to a webcomic artist from tapas who never forgives and keeps blocking me without a single word

[Foresttrfd34]

Hello, this is my first time writing in this forum and this is something that I want to talk about my feelings in tapas and is considered off-topic and I need to get it out of my chest and its about a webcomic artist who made my favorite series which I like who treated me as a fan and now consider me a troll because of what I did that she keeps on blocking me from every social accounts I have without saying a single word especially about the reason why she never forgives me despite my attempts and long messages to say I am sorry.

I will not reveal my first tapas account because she blocked mine along with other social media accounts including patreon and Tumblr , I was originally going to say a long message in tapas, but it has a word limit and when I sent a long apology message to her in tumblr she keeps blocking me and never said a single word , so instead I am writing in this tapas account off topic forum to let my feelings out and tell you about the webcomic artist who made my favorite series but will always never forgive me and keep blocking me, her name is Cate and her username is Frostlight comics the woman who created my favorite series “This isekai maid is forming a union” https://tapas.io/series/This-Isekai-Maid-is-Forming-a-Union/info

You see, I was her biggest fan as I talked about the series even in reddit and made a page in tvtrope because the series is different from typical otome isekai stories as it is also a deconstruction of the genre.
We once talk sometime in tumblr like good friends and she even answered some of my questions but then last year, I begin to point out a lot of errors in the comic and asking more questions in all social media patreon, tumblr, tapas and webtoon but she give me a message saying that she is overwhelmed by a lot of messages in numbers and are giving her stress as she wants to concentrate on her art, which I understand and then on Jul 27, 2022 , I broke a promise because a moment in the webcomic confuse me that I ask her one question in tumblr, this is considered the last straw for frostlight that she blocked my tumblr, my webtoon account, my 1st tapas account, my Instagram account and even my patreon account (which is important for me because nobody blocks me in patreon) and she never answers my other questions like most of the questions answered

I tried to tell her I am sorry and ask her to unblock my account but she keeps on blocking me without a single word and never understand I am sorry , I even wrote a long message to her in one of my Tumblr accounts which is to say my feelings to her that I am sorry and tell her that I understand her sympathy of losing her pet rabbit and to understand she is autistic and would recommend some otome isekai series like Rewriting the villainess and survive romance to read like good friends like the old days but she still blocks me and never said a single word around the reason why she never forgives me .
I just don’t want to hate her because that will make myself a bully to her, I feel pity on her instead that it makes me feel like I should make another Tumblr account and sent her a Christmas card to her soon even though she never forgives me and keep blocking me without saying a single word, I feel like I would write a blog post about her in my tumblr saying that cate or frostlight is a person who never forgives people especially to those who are saying they are sorry and prove to them they change.

So I am writing in this thread to ask anyone who made contact and interact or friends with frostlight comics or not on how will I apologize to frostlight comics and say I am sorry ,how can I convince her to unblock my social media accounts and prove to her that I am sorry and that I changed, and even continue to support her in patreon once again and how will I try to tell her to stop blocking me and convince her to tell me the reason why she keeps blocking and never accept my apology and when she would answer my question like the fans so I can feel like regular fan to her series again .

And if frostlight comics read this, I am just writing to tell her that this is how I express my feelings on her on why she never forgives me and hope this thread proves that I am really sorry.

[IndigoShirtProd]

How about you just leave them alone. They have set a boundary by blocking you and keep trying to step past that to give selfish apology. If they want to forgive you they will, but they don't owe that to you. Just leave it be and move on to with your life.

[Kelheor]

There's no reason for you to hate her, neither to make her Christmas cards and stuff. @IndigoShirtProd said it, just leave her be and enjoy her comic without showing yourself out loud, if you really like what she does. I never saw her on this forum, so I doubt she will see this message, but just give her and yourself some peace. Creators are real people and they don't owe you anything.

[RedLenai]

Some authors don't want to deal with certain fans, simple reason: Those fans annoy them.

She keeps on blocking you because you are disrespecting her boundaries, she doesn't want you to comment, she doesn't like what you comment, she doesn't like the engagement she receives from you, she probably has hinted that to you in her replies or by ignoring you, yet you don't get it, she blocks you, yet you go making multi-accounts to keep getting on her space, you are being overbearing, dense, forcing your way into her, forcing an exchange with her.

You're basically putting what you want and how you feel first, instead of understanding your freedom is limited by the consent and freedom of the other, you're totally ignoring how she feels, how you are making her feel and your behavior is only making things worse.

Why do you even need to engage so much with this author? Literally, most readers I've seen just read the story and call it a day, if she has a huge number of people commenting, asking and such, then one number less isn't important, especially when her patience and tolerance is also limited because she is human too. She is the creator and center of the community she builds, she can decide who has the privilege, set the limits and all. You either accept that or overfixate in a different creator that has no issue with your (toxic) fan attitude.

[Foresttrfd34]

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[Stargazer31]

She's got no obligation to answer your questions or to take your money. Just walk away. Not only that, all the answers to these questions seem like they'd spoil the story

[MK_Wizard]

My best advice is to give her space and time. She will come around on her own. Most people do.

And at the risk of sounding like the devil's advocate, I don't see what you did wrong. At least not 100% wrong. More like the way you said it was wrong. You gave an opinion and a suggestion as a fan which all fans do with fiction. It comes with the territory. Fans even make fanart and even fanfiction that deviates from what the author had in mind, but the professional thing to do is to just take it as flattery that people are making fanworks in general of their work and move on. The only case of which an author is justified in being offended and banning someone is if they're making fanworks that are problematic for good reason (underage porn for example), they're plagiarising or they're claiming your work is theirs or are openly insulting the author. You shared an idea and gave criticism. They way you said it was wrong, they way you're acting is wrong and honestly, some questions and some things are best kept to yourself out of respect. The author doesn't owe you anything.

Perhaps she reacted this way because she lost her pet and was in a bad place, so I would not take it too personally. You apologized sincerely and did right. And she doesn't sound like a bad person. She just sounds like she got a negative criticism and reacted badly to it. Now, I'm not saying you're not in the wrong either, friend. There is a way to give criticism and suggestions, but being a know it all is not polite and I can tell you from experience that telling a comic author you can write their story better than them (even if not in those words), is not very nice. Does it merit banning? No. We all say dumb things. Moreover, making multiple accounts just to apologize to someone comes across as a little creepy, so it is in fact counterproductive.

In my experience, neither of you are toxic people. You're both good people who each reacted badly to a tough situation at a bad time. However, it can turn around. Stop making multiple accounts and leave her alone. As for her, she needs to sit and really think about what she was getting herself into when she became a comic author and put her work in public. She has to accept that some people are not going to agree with how she write or point out mistakes. When she does, she going to give you, and herself, a break.

EDIT: I cleared the air on some points because they sounded contradictory.

[Garchompula]

She doesn't want your money. She wants nothing to do with you. She doesn't want you reading her comic. She doesn't want you mailing her stuff. You're not her old friend, you're a stranger obsessed with them.

However, considering how you've spent countless hours trying to convince them otherwise, I'm sure you will ignore all of this genuine advice.

[RedLenai]

Can you simply not need to convice another person to do things that only seem to selfishly benefit you?
She doesn't want to unblock you, she doesn't have to. You are the one selfishly thinking that you need her, that you must seek a way to be unblocked by her, dude, you have an overfixation and unhealthy attachement to this author.

If she has blocked you, is because your support is not as big as your annoying behavior, you're not essential to her. You're not her only one supporter or fan, just stop being overbearing and respect her boundaries. You sound like the parents at r/RaisedByNarcissists

A lot of your questions can simply be answered with "Wait and see" as the series unfold.
Other ones are meaningless if they do not provide anything to the story nor its going to be used.

You also overabuse the ability to support her or being able to have an exchange with an author, you have around 15 questions, if this was a Convention, you'll only be able to make one and you'll only receive an answer that'll take less than 10 minutes to answer, you sound like you ask for a hand and then drag the entire body into the water with you.

[IndigoShirtProd]

No, we already answered your question. Like @Stargazer31 said, they are not under any obligation to answer your questions, some of which are invasive or would spoil the story, even if you financially supported them.

[Garchompula]

Question for context: When did they shut off all contact? How long has it been?

[Stargazer31]

Also: Writers don't like it when you point out flaws in their work.

[Kelheor]

There's this thing. There was this point of the time where you started considering her a "friend" and decided you can overstep all the boundaries. She didn't consider you a friend and being a content creator she probably felt like she has to answer your questions and be nice. I bet she was glad to have such a devoted fan at the beginning, but with time you decided that now she owes you her time, because you spent all that time writing stuff about her comic, donating her money, etc.
But no, no she doesn't. She is not your friend, and even if she was, it was a friend who asked you to stop such behavior and you betrayed this trust.
If you can't just make a silent account to enjoy her work, just don't get on this person's nerves anymore.

[MK_Wizard]

To be honest, there are some rules of etiquette that even friends don't cross when dealing with an author. Number one is, don't tell them how to write THEIR story or how your ideas are better than theirs. The only time it is the exception is if the author is asking you what you would do or if the author is writing in a way that's going to get them in big trouble. Otherwise, you can say you don't like it, you can say they misspelled a word, you can say who you ship, you can say you like the side characters better, you can say an event or character death made you sad, but for everything else, hold your tongue.

[EncryptedWriting]

I am going to be very blunt here and say - what the f***???

This is beyond creepy, and it honestly feels like stalking at this point. You feel like she owes you something, and she has every right to feel pissed off, creeped out, and worried.

God, I feel creeped out and annoyed for her.

[thepenmonster]

You're acting like a stalker. Go outside and see a shrink.

[NickRowler]

LEAVE HER ALONE!

It is possible to still read her comics without posting comments or interacting with her on social media. This whole thing feels very parasocial. You are a reader, not her bestie or coworker. She doesn't owe you anything.

[amortelito]

Hi, I don't mean to invalidate your feelings and I hope our comments can help you. You clearly love this comic and you want to be friends with the author, but friendship is not one-sided and the other person has the right of not wanting anything to do with you 🥲. Nobody owes us explanations.

As much as you love the comic, please just read it and move on. Many of us won't get our questions answered, and we just get over it.

If you got blocked, the author doesn't want to have contact and that's fine, and you have to respect that.

I hope any of these comments can help you to see how you can't always get things done your way and it's okay. You can move past that.

[joannekwan]

If you keep trying to contact the author, they could very well submit evidence of your harassment and have your account banned on Tapas.

Everyone has given solid advice already. Log off and seek some irl help from a therapist about this obsession.

[GodbreakerComic]

You need to hear(read) this, and so do a lot of young men:

Women owe you nothing. Absolutely nothing. It doesn't matter how much time you spent on them, or how "nice" you were, (side note: its not being nice if your only doing something for selfish reasons), how much you like them, or how much you want to just explain yourself, etc.

People don't owe you anything and you can't manipulate them in order to get what you want from them. That's called being a sociopath.

The sooner you come to terms with and accept this, the better your life will be.