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Dec 2020

It can be really hard to connect with people. I have similar problems but mine come from a childhood of moving around alot. I missed out in the chance to develop proper social skills and have only really gotten to a good place recently.

Don't beat yourself up about it, it can take time and the waiting is the hardest part. Why not make another account? Going in incognito might help with your nervousness towards commenting on threads. It can also help you distance yourself and hopefully less of an emotional impact.

I'm not the best with things like this, but I just wanted to let you know that you're not alone and there're people who have or are currently feeling these kinds of struggles.

Talking and connecting with people can be super tough. The biggest reason I started joining the forums was that if I posted my thoughts or feelings about a topic, people actually responded and not the vague likes on regular social media. Even on this forum, I limit my responses 1. to prevent oversharing because I'm private 2. long threads are overwhelming for me. (Spamming)

It took me a really long time to learn the difference of friend vs acquaintance. Even if you only interact with someone for a few short weeks, they can still be your true friend. And even if you know and interact with someone who claims to be your friend for years, they can really just be an acquaintance. Some friendships will last forever while others only last a few weeks. Both friendships are valid and it's not your fault if they just "fade away".

If you are having a hard time emotionally, you might need to get help. I know it feels like nowadays that we have to present our entire lives online and that makes feelings of self-doubt and loneliness a million times worse. If you're not comfortable being super active on the platforms, it's okay. If you want to start working your way back in slowly, that's okay too.

Aw damn Raven, i'm so sorry to read that ! Why didn't you say a thing on discord ? :frowning:
If you wanna hang out on discord to talk a bit you can pm at anny moment ! (Gonna pm you annyway, you just got me worried here)

Thank you for your reply and concern. Yesterday I talked with a very sweet duck (ahahaha, you know who) and I felt a lot better. I still feel like the biggest attention seeker ever after I wrote on this topic so I would like @joannekwan Or @ratique To close This topic. Thank you in advance. :slight_smile:

closed Dec 20, '20