And there's not also including the rather toxic mentality when someome immediately thinks BL, which more times than not, involves romanticized abuse and the readers basically urging on the "feminine" guy to get raped.
Um, this one here, made me really uncomfortable. Because, its not true.
I'm not that good with explaining, so I'm sorry if it's came out wrong.
I'm in the community for a good amount of time and no, no one (maybe there's some peoples...) think that romanticized abuse and rape is a good things. Yeah, I admit there's a lot (like, so much I can't even say anything about it, including the doujin) manga with a romanticized rape, but they didn't want the character to be raped or abused (most of them) and often enough, the comment section is flooded with how uncomfortable and how they don't like rape (especially the romanticized one) happening to their story character.
That's what the rape tag came from, so no one what want to read it can stay away from it.
Also, there's even happen a discussion about the same things happened to the audience, and how it became a support group or something on that one comment section.
It might be some kink or something with the rape and other the writer write for the audience, but the audience itself didn't wish that to be true (but some with the kink might).
These kind of abusive relationship isn't healthy, and rape is 100% wrong, but there will always some people that find it appealing. And please don't think we're thinking about rape every time... it just made me sad.
@onyefrankie, I'm sorry if its insulting to you and your community, but most of the BL lover (and other lgbtq lover) is there to give their support for you guys (I think?). And btw, the appeal of BL might come from how they just love two man finding their happiness (and probably making out) together, plus the thrill of the forbidden love. Idk.
I can't say that I can express my feeling right with these words, but my love for BL, is the one that saves me long ago, so I hope you understand.
@Alex9Wolf9, sorry, I just need to say this. I'll shut up now.