There is no post limit (as you can see on this thread).
It was closed down because the overall tone devolved, just asking for a blow-up.
This forum has very high standards on what is acceptable compared what you usually find on forums I suppose. If you want blood and war, I'm sure you will have no problem finding it in other forums. There is really no place for that here.
Some users don't like that, for others it's not strict enough. I'm screwed either way I choose. XD
I think there's no fault in that.
Sometimes, people take things WAY out of proportions, away from the topic at hand no less, and it just spirals out of control.
And I think it helps people to sorta step back, maybe breathe a bit, and try again without all that arguing. Sides, forums in general are supposed to be places where you can relax, chat with people, maybe share a few ideas. All that arguing ruins the fun for everyone.
I was in my 20s when I came to this forum, now I'm in my 30s and definitely in mom territory D: I believe I will grow old here. Old and grey.
And thank you, I appreciate it. Not everyone would agree, but it's nice to know there is one that does XD
But we are in the bitching thread, so back to the bitching. Tuesdays are the worst. I know people have a thing for Monday, but no Tuesday is the day where dreams come to die.
Last week my boss said I got 6 months till I lose my fulltime position, which means going from making a little over 2k a month to $200 a month. Ironically, last Monday my mom lost her job again because the company she worked for sold out to someone else who laid off the last 3 groups of people who went through training. She happened to be in one of those 3 groups.
So, if we don't figure something out within these 6 months we'll be homeless. Fun stuff.
You think you can find a new job? Having a 6 months lead time is great, most jobs give you none.
But overall, that sucks. I've been in a similar position as your mom before. It's really heartbreaking. But after the first shock, you need to get back onto your feet and apply like crazy.
I've been trying for years, but most employers don't want to pay employees my wage, or employ fulltime. Which sucks cuz what I'm making now is juuust enough to pay bills and get all our necessities. The employment rate in our city is absolute garbage. I only have a job now cuz I sold my soul to uncle sam a few years ago as a last resort, but I haven't been able to get an interview with anyone on the outside ever since.
Oh gosh, we've been getting kicked down, and getting up so much that I'm totally indifferent to it all by now. I'm not sure if I'll even feel anything if we do lose our home and pets. What really sucks is my mom is partially disabled, she blew out some discs in her back so now she can't commute without feeling extreme pain, she can't much labor intensive stuff at all actually. So it kind of adds to the stress.
I'v been telling people for several years now that I hate Tuesday more than any other day of the week. It's the worst. It's just a nothing day!
Hate it -_- .
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idk man. i think arguments lead to people thinking out their ideas in full and coming to new conclusions, for sure. but fights? ppl simplify their side down to one point and stick to it no matter what. its what makes the atmosphere here so frustrating - you cant have a nuanced discussion when this stuff happens, because people are getting invested, theyre not thinking through their arguments. and people get dogpiled. its so hard to think clearly when you get dogpiled.
I feel that. The weather in my neck of the woods is cycling pretty rapidly these days, so my sinuses are going wild T_T .
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Except that there some people that love being argumentative about topics such as the one that was closed down. I dont really say much coz once certain people start to become unreasonable, logic goes out the door.
Well, we talked to our shitty roommate last week. Two weeks ago? Time's kind of a blur because of the weird job scheduling I'm in.
Nothing has changed. Every word I knew she would say came out of her mouth: "But I'm depressed! I've been suicidal! You're being unfair! Why didn't Caelen bring this up to me personally!?"
Because I tried
And all I got was her screaming at me
She's manipulative and cruel and I am so, so sick of this. She's talking about just moving out now instead of trying to keep improving. Fine. I'm tired of her shit, our other roommate is tired of her shit, and my partner is tired of her shit. Our roommate has SEVERE depression and has been hospitalized a few times for suicidal ideation, but he's now regularly seeing a therapist and managing his symptoms well with medication plus he has us as a support group he knows he can come to if he's feeling not-quite-bad-enough to see his therapist outside of scheduled appointments. I'm unmedicated depression and anxiety, but I've learned to cope because my insurance I have through my biological dad does NOT cover therapy or antidepressants. Again, I have a wonderful support group and I taught myself coping methods that work for my problems.
Her? She hides in her room all day. She baits people on dating sites into being assholes and then tears them down. She's unsubtly racist, immensely sexist/misogynist then swears she's a feminist, for real, and transphobic - constantly calls me by pronouns I do NOT want and never refers to my partner with their chosen pronouns, swears she's nonbinary too but that "she's too lazy to do anything except wear dresses" and tries to force me to try on extremely effeminate clothing on the rare occasion we go to the store together.
She won't seek medication, because "none of it works because of her metabolism," and she won't seek therapy, because therapists are just out to tell you that you're broken and nothing will fix you. obviously.
Just three more months.
Sounds like she does have some severe issues. Not too sure about the depression, I did grow extremely aggressive before my meds but that mainly just manifested as me testing my friendships/ picking arguments/random screaming fits, so can't really offer insight to that. Maybe she's bipolar, if she flunctuates a lot. Maybe she's just an asshole. The hiding in her room part sounds worrying, though.
People often refuse to get help because of a stigmatism, and since you don't know why she came to think like that I feel like it's a bit unfair of you to blame her. You could try to force help by calling somewhere (911?idk where you call where you're from, in my country you call emergency number if you worry about a depressed friend), but that'd backfire...But then again if you're so eager to get rid of her, maybe it'd be the best solution.
Ugh. Don't ever work as a cleaning lady or whatever it's called.
Everyone and their aunt seems to know my job better than I do, and people "like me" are apparently have low education and not only that, seen as dirt (IF EVEN THEY SEE YOU AT ALL).
I hate the stigma around that work, I do it because it's pretty good salary and I like my boss.
I'm honestly scared of telling people what I work with because of how they'll look at me with pity.
When I told people I worked as an usher/facility keeper/janitor (because it involved changing light bulbs, deliver mail and all that cool inhouse jazz I love doing), SUDDENLY I was a human being??
It's just... I'm just so tired of people thinking lowly of me, just because of my work. My work does not define who I am.
I'm also pretty sure that none of them knows my name, despite me working there for almost 3 years now, so I got that going on for me.
I just... I feel like the wrong person on the wrong workspace and I don't know what to do about it.
I feel the need of doing something different, but I honestly don't know what. (I do know what, I want to go back being a janitor again but that seems to only be reserved for boys because girls can't do that stuff, but guess what. I'm stronger than most people and that's just raw strength).
Sorry for the rambling, I needed to vent somewhere.
Oh man, that reminds me of this one time when I was working as a cashier at a hypermarket (in my country anyone who works as a cashier is presumed dumb and a failure)
I was cashing out some customer, she was perfectly pleasant. While she was packing her things up and I was doing some math related to the work (adding up bottle-recycle receipt thingies) she suddenly just turned to me and said;
"Don't you wish you had stayed in school now?"
I was like excuse me and just smiled and wen't "Actually I'm working here part time alongside my university...So I'm doing a 60 h workweek". Shut her up. It was so weird too, literally everyone in my workplace had higher education than high school...
yeah, my colleagues used to work as a hairdresser, spanish teachers and nurses.
I hate how people just assume that one's not "educated" just because they have a work.
At least I'm not on social benefits because I don't want to work (like some of my ex-friends) as it's "convenient".
(please note, I think it's awesome that we've got social benefits but it feels widely misused by people who are able to work, but won't because they don't get a job that's their dream job)
I'm a graduated nanny, I speak english (almost) fluently and it just angers me that people think it's ok to approach me and say their condolences for me having a work??
I just... What is that even??
And working as a cashier is awesome! I mean, I wouldn't be able to work with money as I have problems counting, but.. Honestly, it tells me more about that person than it does with me.
(I'm always friendly with cashiers and clerks, as they've probably met their fair share of angry customers and I always say Hi and thank you after I've shopped xD)
But like, why do people do that?
Why would they feel the need to approach someone only to say that they're looking down on people? It's just... Is that their way of being "friendly"?
Or don't they have enough social skills to know how to socialize?
Edit:
I'm truly sorry if I sound really bitter, but I'm just so tired of all that is work related atm xD
