You came back swinging! That's great Love the name Artemis, too!
That's painful. I was one of those narrow-minded people years ago who had a limited idea of how a victim responds to abuse (as someone who lived it for years), and I hurt a fellow writer with my "critique" on her character and how she dealt with child abuse. I realized as time went on that there's literally no limits to how one may react as a victim or a survivor or something/someone. It really sucks that she was hurt just for me to learn something I should have realized before.
Despite all of the awareness these days about mental illness, mental health, trauma, etc, there are still people who will gatekeep victims and their reactions. I've been told to my face before that my anxiety and my panic attacks aren't justified because the perpetrator had a "difficult life". How that makes any sense to anyone, I have no idea. Things are slowly getting better far as understanding the diversity of reactions in victims goes, at least. It's a very slow progress, and it should be much faster, but it's better than nothing.
I'm sorry both of you had these experiences. It hits on another level beyond just writing.
The situation you're describing @cherrystark makes SO much sense. I don't understand what the reader missed.
What? Where did this expectation come from? Most sex scenes I've come across are very vague and brief unless I've stumbled upon a Romance I didn't know had Erotica as a sub-genre. Maybe I haven't read Romance in a long time. Regardless, I don't think a story shouldn't be held to the expectations of what other writers have done with their stories in that way.
Sorry that happened to you and the friendship was no longer viable. I've experienced something similar, and to this day I won't let them read anything of mine because of it. Those pet names sound really unique and interesting!