What's a harsh reality no one accepts?

[abigaillmartin]

Someone who likes to have fun and enjoy life is one of mine too. Someone who has a sense of humor as well.

[remiquise]

Fr, I'm looking at this conversation and really only have my own anecdotes to speak on so don't really have any desire to bicker off that, but like... I know my friend's types, and I know a good personality will make them find someone outside of said type really attractive.

I'm into effeminate men (which is already out of the norm) but the guy I'm kinda seeing is not that at all-- nor is he conventionally attractive. Bigger, not that tall, glasses, unibrow, yatta yatta... But idk, I think he's attractive. He makes me laugh, he makes me feel special, he understands me more than others seem to (that might be the shared autistic traits...), he listens and remembers, his passion for things is really cute (even if it's stuff I'm not that interested in), and my cats like him..!

Every time I see folks complain how big a role conventionally attractive play in things of that sort I can only imagine they're projecting their own vapidness onto folks at large. Like, maybe on dating apps, but those are dumper fires in so many ways. Go outside, join a group, and meet people.

[abigaillmartin]

Awwwwe! This dude sounds so cool! It’s like my boyfriend! ️

[thepenmonster]

Truth;

If you're not getting laid it's because you have unrealistic demands or you're simply not putting in the effort to be a good partner.

[abigaillmartin]

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[Stargazer31]

Elliot Roger? You mean the murderer? Why would anyone want to be like him unless they're seriously sick and fucked up? What decent person would admire him and why would you want to be in a movement full of people that does?

[abigaillmartin]

I read him up. It is actually insane you guys consider him a “saint”
Legit psychotic. This stuff is very dangerous!

[Stargazer31]

As I said. Incels are a huge danger to women and society in general, and it's not taken seriously. These sick fucks idolise serial killers and talk about women like they're cattle and nobody ever calls them out about it

[KevinReijnders]

The atomization of society also doesn't help.

[KevinReijnders]

Oh I'm well aware haha.

It's why I scoff at the idea there's this universal standard or norm.

[thepenmonster]

I thought the abs joke was pretty relatable in Deadpool 3

[abigaillmartin]

Just so we are clear, me and my friend are going to not tolerate your behavior. No one on this platform is going to either. It is hurting people and it is a harmful way of life.
There are much healthier and better ways of life and you chose a very dangerous one my dude.

[Lensing]

The international norm is that being in a popular band adds to your attractivness

[Lensing]

Here is a harsh reality from a study about comic books.
They measured the time that readers look at the panels and
the average time was 3.75 seconds.

It´s good to keep that in mind imo

[thepenmonster]

Serge Gainsbourg was an absolute dirtbag with a face made for mud puddles and he managed to partner up with the most desired women in France. I haven't seen anything to suggest he was a considerate lover so it had to be the fame.

[thepenmonster]

They measured the time that readers look at the panels and
the average time was 3.75 seconds.

Artist's pride makes me hate how webtoons are largely lacking backgrounds and rarely put in any effort to do anything aside from posing a princes and her senpai, but they're right to not bother putting in the work no one will look at.

[moontokkym]

Babe... The "looks are everything, we hold the truth of how the world works, everyone else is just ignorant of it, and therefore we have practices (mewing, looksmaxxing, etc...) towards this belief" is the cult part. The part where you use words to describe these rituals that those outside the group won't know is the cult part. The worship of common figures of martyr to the cause like ER is the cult part. The pushing of the belief that you can either adhere to this belief and follow the practices or give up and die is the cult part. The "us and them" of incels and normies is the cult part. The hierarchy of red to Blackpill, truecels and incels, is the cult part.

Cults aren't inherently religious, and you can profess to a mainstream religion and be in a cult. What makes the cult is the isolation from others, the control of your thoughts even while they try and make you think you're doing it yourself, the engulfment of yourself as the ideology consumed who you were, and the pain of never really being able to connect to others outside anymore. It's a form of abuse, one that you keep coming back to because it's all you've known for so long. You are being manipulated and I'm sorry that you were ever in a place vulnerable enough that it happened to you. I hope you find happiness.

[Stargazer31]

Exactly this! You're spitting facts

[abigaillmartin]

This is exactly what we needed to hear from at least one of you! ️

[AizuKin123]

What appeals sells. If your skill/work is not appealing enough in this competitive world you will be buried witout entertaining any queries!