Oh my, I read all the replies here and it makes me thankful I didn't comment much (if at all) back when I joined, I joined around 2014 so I imagine it was probably a mess back then xD
I'm actually super awkward when it comes to internet friends or socializing so the forum always intimidated me, thinking people would attack me for anything I said or just ignore me completely lol I was younger so I was more sensitive to that xD besides the fact I've tried talking to people and it's always been short responses that die out the conversation or people talking to me saying 'Hi, how are you?' and nothing else. Like, I didn't know what they wanted to do by just saying those lines loool
Even on discord, when I attempted to give an opinion that wasn't about the characters romance or shipping, I got ignored really bad XD So I just gave up. I'm actually trying this time to hang around in the forum and see if I can comment on something, it's been a positive experience so I'm telling myself it's okay to comment.
Someone said something about people being intolerant when they weren't from the US, but the awkward experiences I've had were US people or maybe it was US teen talk that I didn't get? Has anyone experienced going into a chat and people like talking in a roleplaying way and saying nonsense as a way to socialize? With nonsense I mean as in people just saying animeish things to each other and writing things like "throws a cookie and explodes" to give an example lol (and any attempt to talk normally will just be ignored xD)
But I'm finding people here in the forum to be friendly and with interesting opinions, so yeah x'D I'm a friendly person and I love to talk but I turn into an awkward/shy person in the internet so I just end up reading opinions lol
Hm, as for the 'too much BL' thing, it's funny cause I always complain that there's not enough hahah xD You see, I have a thing for reading stories about girls reincarnating into "villains" in other worlds, they are always redeemed cause they're not the villan, but the point is that... there's not even stories about guys experimenting the same and it being a BL >_>
Or hey, even BL stories that are not about the couple. Like, how many stories with complex plotlines have a boy x boy main? I have nothing against cute-romantic BL couples (which are indeed abundant) but I have yet to see shonen or seinen storylines that have a main boy x boy main couple in it u_u or the main simply being gay. It's always guys with harems XD So yeah, I just wanted to comment on that. It may be abundant in one specific area, but there's little to none BL stories that aren't focused in the couple in a kind of slice of life way. (If you know any manwhas or stories that aren't slice of life and have a gay character (man) main do recommend me some pls xD)
And wow, I understand envy exists but like... Aren't people thinking that that's what they'll go through once they get there? I understand the discomfort of seeing people with more subs recommending but, at least to me, them recommending it is alright, them having 1000+ subs won't translate into anything harmful for me, on the contrary, it's discouraging to think that if I get to 1000 I won't be able to promote anymore cause people will look at me badly :S
I think people should stop thinking about pulling others down with them and instead focus on their own stories to reach the subscribers they want, it's just as useless as envying what your neighbor has Like, if you want something work for it, the person with 1000+ subscribed worked hard for it and it's your turn to do it as well.
Also, it's like just one thread, if the forum was full of 1000+ threads promoting then I wouldn't feel ok with it, because Tapas already promotes popular stories on the front page and it would be taking away the opportunity of newcomers to be seen... But yeah, one thread or a few of 1000+ promoting shouldn't be frowned upon, unless you're okay with being treated like that in the future :S
In any case, I just wanted to share this, but as I said, I understand the discomfort but would like to encourage people to focus on the bigger picture and realize this discomfort is going to be redirected to them when they ever pass the 500-1000 subscriber count.
I have like 100 subscribers and from the 100 I rarely get a comment xD I can imagine this being a problem even for larger counts, like having 500 and people not saying much either, so, I don't see what's bad for people wanting to promote themselves (?)
But who knows, since you all are saying the forum is more like mature and cool with people, those threads could be a thing now? I dunno, it would be cool the forum turned into a place where people uplift each other no matter how many subs they have
As a reader, I never care about subscribers, I only care about the story being good, the art style and maybe reviews. There's stories with millions of subscribes with really bad reviews on anime-planet for example xD so yeah, it's better to just focus on making a story you can be proud of and show others that can appreciate it for what it is ^^
As others have said here, people still need another job and having 500-1000 subs won't do much for you, so the envy is way more useless in this scenario. Be proud of your story and focus your all on it so others can see how much love it has!
Of course, promote it, but always remember there's an audience for everyone! You never know when your story has that specific plot a reader is looking for
I'm really happy to read the forum is nicer now and apparently with more mature people around!
Oh and I've gotten bullied not here but on the forum on Deviantart >_> for expressing an opinion that wasn't well received, I had to ask the staff to close the thread and it did scare me off of ever trying again to comment there.
I'm still a bit apprehensive about commenting on the forum but anyways, hope no one got offended from this x'D Just wanted to share my opinion!